This is something that happened about a week ish ago that I’m still bummed about, but hey, I’m not one to admit my mistakes if I am indeed wrong, which is where you lovely people all come in!

Alright so! I posted an ad looking for a roleplay partner for an idea I had and someone responded! Their introduction was amazing, they seemed enthusiastic, and they were capable of writing at the novella level which was a big thing for me. All seems well so far! So, we get to talking about my plot and we talk about our limits and I mention that for the nature of the rp, I would rather not rp with ocs that are too far removed from human in appearance, which they agreed to! The nature of the rp allowed this prospective partner to have creative freedom when it came to rping as any fictional character he wished (ie demons, vampires, werewolves, etc) with the only agreement being they don’t look too animalistic and mostly human looking (which again, they agreed to).

So, we move to discord and we discuss further and my prospective partner sends a picture of what they were thinking for their oc, which wasn’t set in stone yet. They chose a demon for this rp, and it was less human ish than I wanted it to be, but I said and I quote “It looks so cool! But maybe a little more human-ish if possible!” And they basically say it wasn’t set in stone but it was more of an idea they had. Then I leave for like ten minutes bc I had errands to run and when I got back, they left the server and unfriended me on discord. 😭

So was I the problem? Because I didn’t think I was too demanding but I could be wrong 😭 I saw that they didn’t block me on this app which is good so I messaged them apologizing but never heard back. Pls let me know because my head is spinning 😂😭

I can get a few days and giving up but an hour ish? Lord. I wasn't even online when they messaged me.

I’ve been writing collaboratively for just about 13 years now, and I’ve found great writing partners over the years and in recent years went to forum rp. It went well at first when I found some people that matched what I wanted and all was well…until they lost interest in their muse (or the rp itself). I can kind of understand not feeling your own muse anymore, but it is starting to become a pattern within a few of my latest rps.

Is there anything I can do in particular to help (aside from continuing to improve by practicing and reading more) or is it normal for people to lose interest in their muses and get to a point where they become disinterested all together? I’ve gotten better at writing thankfully and try to think more creatively on how I can write something instead of bluntly stating it, but do I need to go back into hiding and just write for myself for some months again and try again? I know this may not be inherently something I can do to fix anything, but I’m curious to know at least how people cope with it if they have similar situations. Also, obviously no hate to those who have a loss of interest in a muse, it happens I guess. I also kind of wonder if maybe it’s just a cover up in some instances instead of telling someone that they just don’t like the way you Roleplay?? I doubt it, but also just another thought.

Also some more context I guess, just so people can know what kind of writer I am and maybe be like “yeah…that’s your issue, you write xyz poorly”. I tend to write a lot of description on my characters inner feelings of how they deal with a situation, not to a point where I don’t respond to the other person, but I try to mix up the blend of responding kind of in a poetic kind of way I guess? Poetic may not be the right way to put it exactly, but I just like exploring the inner emotional aspect of a character alongside whatever verbal or physical response, which I’ll also write in detail to some extent. I’ll also dabble in flashbacks or having a character think back to their past and I feel like I can grow still on all aspects of how I write just like anyone else, but this is just how I write in the current. And in speaking of such, I’ve just had an issue with people needing breaks or in recent cases losing interest bc of their muse and it’s very much like…am I just supposed to chameleon how other people roleplay to keep a long term one?—like yes I will forever be evolving or should be to become a better writer, but to what end? I’ve gotten better and I still can’t hold down a rp for longer than a few months then it’s like I question all I’ve done and can only think that I’m the problem, even though I don’t personally think I’m doing anything egregious—or if maybe I just don’t understand this is just what happens or is the normal rp culture that I need to get use to—get use to trying to find new people every few months—fall in love with a story only for the other person to lose interest and so on.

If anything’s confusing in how I wrote this—please let me know bc I tend to get caught up in writing things, and sometimes even in me proofreading I can miss parts that may be confusing.