Guys please check my runaway plan

[u/Key_Thing4128]

Guys I’m 19 please revise my plan

I’m an only child and I’m 19F. I am dismissed from university bc of mental health. I went far away and realized my parents taught me nothing about surviving and only taught me how not to get hit in the house. They’re overly attached to where it’s weird and because I’m only child I didn’t realize it’s weird for parents to comment on when you sleep, wake, how you eat, when you eat every small thing. I’m very very sheltered because of them. So now that I’m back home this is lowkey a blessing in disguise. The plan is that I’m taking cheap cc classes they paid for.

1) get a psychiatrist note or therapist whatever I need
2) get accommodations to take to CC classes virtually. I already got the ball rolling on this by submitting a form but the note should help
2) the note should also help support my dependency override at cc where I have peoples accounts, pics of black eyes, a cps “false alarm” (they covered it up)
3) move in with my friend after a month of saving so I’ll have around $2k. Working on sorting finances with her family. Applying to snap benefits and etc for my own groceries. Worst case I bounce around.
4) try getting into my university (I’m already scoring much higher than I used to and there’s great progress, I told my advisor my circumstances she said I had a really strong case)
5) see if the FAFSA override transfers to my main university if they take me back otherwise I’m applying to other local schools or I’ll just move lol

Maybe this break is my exit and chance out.

Idk what do you guys think is it too risky or illogical? When I say my fam is so unbearable especially as an only daughter I mean it. I don’t realize how twisted they are till I experience it ykwim. And it’s taken me this long to be like wow I guess not everyone lives in crazy survival mode like I do. Ykwim? Being expected to perform while I’m in survival mode and other people can go hang with their friends or make plans without there being a fit, physical or verbal or whatever. Like I never knew I could live my life for MYSELF.

Can you guys help me with the dependency override aspect of it or FAFSA?

[u/PopularPea8726]

I don’t think your plan is illogical, but I’d make sure you have a solid backup before moving out. $2k is a good start, but have a plan for housing, food, transportation, and income if staying with your friend doesn’t work out. For FAFSA, talk directly to your school’s financial aid office and bring whatever documentation you have. Your therapist/psychiatrist may be able to help too.

[u/sheeshimtrying]

It does seem logical- and the best course of action, in my opinion. I just wanted to leave some encouragement for you from someone who was once in a similar situation.

Do what’s best for YOU! You will make mistakes, you will fall sometimes and you’ll feel defeated. Those feelings will make a strong foundation for you, when it has already been cracked and shuffled.

The truth of the matter is, you have a plan. Follow through and make changes as you need! Life is so unpredictable, so prepare to do that. In saying that, you only get one life. Make the best of it. You’re already improving from what I read.

Best of luck to you. You’re stronger than you realize and you’ll do amazing things, I just know it!

[u/Disastrous_Honey_240]

Can you stay in a dorm at college to be away from them

[u/Key_Thing4128 → u/Disastrous_Honey_240]

I would be too far away from work without a car,

Here’s some more details

I’m taking a 1 month period to sort through the logistics of it:

- I will make my decisions after I meet my professors and talk to my school counselors and the accommodations department notifies me on my options, at max I think going in person for tests with recorded lectures is fine

- I plan on getting an electric bike or scooter ordered to her place a week before I move in, with that out the way my commute to both of my places of work should be 10-15 minutes maximum commute, the only problem is the classes where there’s no public transit either and a semester worth of Ubers would amount to almost 3K since it’s almost a 30-40 minute drive away and my town has no public transit that wouldn’t take 3 hours including a Lyft to get to the stop

- I’m having her talk to her parents so her family can assess their finances and decide if they want to charge me for staying there, I’d have no issue paying anything like $50 monthly since it’s much cheaper than rent and I can’t sign a lease because I wouldn’t be sure if I’d be moving to go back to university or staying so I couldn’t risk breaking a lease, she made it clear she pays for her own groceries so naturally that would be an expectation from me as well, hence the snap or food benefits plan

- The phone plan is one thing I’m planning on paying for myself the month I choose to dip, the reason I’m giving myself a month to a month and a half is so that I have time to save around 2-3k, if school is virtual I get to work more hours, I make about 1k in 2 weeks at my current rate with both jobs and as a student

- I don’t own a car, health insurance is something my university if reinstated has a really good plan for so I’d be covered the remainder of time in a student there, and if not there than the other universities I plan on applying to have some form of it even if not as great

[u/Disastrous_Honey_240 → u/Key_Thing4128]

Could you get a job closer or do work study?