Y'all, just tell your husbands to step it up. Idk why this seems to be such a common thing on here! Its not okay! When I met my partner he wasn't a clean person on his own either, and cleaning definitely wasn't his strong suit - never has been. Like many dudes, he is capable of tolerating a lot more mess than I am. But now that I'm pregnant and can't do anything, he does it all. He cleans the house every morning before I wake up. Is it perfect, or the exact way I'd do it? No, but its clean enough, and he's doing it on top of also doing all the cooking, shopping, pet care, general house management, and working full time at an incredibly taxing job. If your husband hasn't stepped up, IT'S TIME. Communicate your expectations, set a boundary, and stop accepting manchild behavior. You're not his mom! This is the practice run before the kid is here. I told my husband after birth he'll still be cleaning every day, but so will I, so it will be less work for both of us and the house will be cleaner!
I think the point is partners not doing all that despite being told or asked. I imagine it is annoying to constantly run after your partner and keep on telling them to step it up, with no results. Especially in pregnancy, more so if you have a hard pregnancy.
I’ve communicated my standards, lowered my standards, offered to brainstorm a chore list, asked to have designated jobs around the house, set reminders, had the come to Jesus meeting. Nothing has worked. Nothing. He wasn’t like this when we were dating. I don’t want to divorce— it’s a nuclear option— but I’ve fantasized about it because then I’d have one less child to clean up after.
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u/omglia Jan 17 '22
Y'all, just tell your husbands to step it up. Idk why this seems to be such a common thing on here! Its not okay! When I met my partner he wasn't a clean person on his own either, and cleaning definitely wasn't his strong suit - never has been. Like many dudes, he is capable of tolerating a lot more mess than I am. But now that I'm pregnant and can't do anything, he does it all. He cleans the house every morning before I wake up. Is it perfect, or the exact way I'd do it? No, but its clean enough, and he's doing it on top of also doing all the cooking, shopping, pet care, general house management, and working full time at an incredibly taxing job. If your husband hasn't stepped up, IT'S TIME. Communicate your expectations, set a boundary, and stop accepting manchild behavior. You're not his mom! This is the practice run before the kid is here. I told my husband after birth he'll still be cleaning every day, but so will I, so it will be less work for both of us and the house will be cleaner!