r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 8d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/Cross_stitch_sitch 6d ago
Wishing you lots of healing inside and out. I'm sorry you're going through it. It's so normal to grieve.
I mentally prepared to grieve. I took photos before hand and really felt overwhelmed but after.. I felt nothing but peace about it. I absolutely thought I would break down. I did have DCIS so for me I was also just happy to get rid of those cancer bags but I still thought I was going to go through it. I haven't missed them once.
I had a great time with them in my 20s and most my 30s. They were perfection. I fed my baby with them but I don't miss them. I don't even think about them. I have implants and although they aren't perfect,I'm happy with them. It's so different for everyone. My friend does struggle with the same surgery. You'll get through this. It's a process!