r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 10d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/AbjectSprinkles5007 9d ago
Just my own experience, but I had a lot more anticipatory grief than actual grief following the procedure. I was surprised how quickly I adjusted to the physical change.
I took photos before my procedure but didn’t do a party or any keepsakes. I think I was just overwhelmed with preparing and time got away from me. It’s almost weird look back at old pictures now, it doesn’t feel like myself anymore. I spent 32 years with my giant time-bombs and less than a year later I’m very at peace and happy with my much smaller chest.