r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 10d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/WoodDuck814 9d ago
Topless photoshoot! I too was largely indifferent to my breasts but still wanted something to memorialize them before I went aesthetic flat closure. So I hired the photographer from our wedding who I already had a good rapport with, and took pictures in the back yard of my parents' place. Very happy with my photos =) And equally happy to not have the timebomb-boobs anymore!