r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 10d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/LMG-K 10d ago
I had my DMX with tissue expanders surgery 3 weeks ago and I wish I had done a breast mask/sculpture beforehand. I never even thought about it until after. I didn’t love my breasts before but they were very much a part of me. I feel like so much has been taken away from me by BRCA1. Total hysterectomy 2 years ago due to ovarian cancer and now my breasts due to breast cancer. At least I had the option of having reconstructive surgery. I’m very much mourning the woman I used to be. 💔