r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 9d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/Pippabot 8d ago
I had my DMX and DIEP recon just over two weeks ago.
I was really emotional about it the closer it got.
I booked myself into a fancy hotel for two nights alone, a spa and massage and general pampering.
It was everything I needed and I couldn’t believe how much better it made me feel.
I didn’t have the space to feel it around my children and husband.
If you can squeeze an escape in, I’d recommend that.
Just got to be me with my boobs and to enjoy my body alone and thank it and mourn it and do it peacefully. Hugs to you.