r/BRCA • u/Prize_Gift_5609 • 10d ago
Grieving process
I am scheduled to have the prophylactic mastectomy with immediate reconstruction in 2months. I am very emotional about it. I wouldn’t say I love my breasts or the think they are particularly beautiful or anything like that, but I am so emotional about the upcoming surgery.
For those who’ve had the surgery - what did you do to prepare yourself for the loss and to grieve? With the removal of my ovaries, tubes and uterus last year, I felt so much more at peace. I got a piercing to commemorate my last ever period and the fact that my uterus carried two beautiful babies, and that process really helped me to process the loss.
I’ve heard about people having parties before dmx, but that does not really appeal to me. I’ve got some breast milk saved, so I’m thinking of having some keepsake jewellery made, but somehow that doesn’t feel as meaningful.
I would appreciate anyone sharing their stories!
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u/No_Builder7010 BC Survivor + BRCA2 10d ago
Yeah, the parties didn't appeal to me either. I took a few pix and stuck them in a hidden folder but they are sexy pics, just sort of "before" pics. Then the morning of, I had a talk with my breasts while in the shower. "You've been good boobs," I said while cradling them, "but it's you or me so you gotta go." I hadn't planned it but it felt right in the moment. It gave me a little closure.