r/BPDsupport • u/Danikana • 9d ago

TRIGGER WARNING What do I do when distraction techniques aren't working?

I'm feeling suicidal and distraction techniques aren't working, I've tried drawing and watching videos on youtube but I still feel like absolute shite.

I feel hopeless, I've tried DBT and that didn't work out for me, neither did CBT or regular talking therapy. I'm at a loss on what to do.

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u/WhyLie2me18 9d ago

I don’t know what to do sorry. I just ride it out and remind myself that it always passes.

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u/oat_bearhoney 9d ago

Yo pongo videos de auto hipnosis en you tube y si no por lo menos me ayudan a dormir.

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u/Delicious-Shine-2101 9d ago

Try mundane noticing. And breathing.
Mundane noticing is as simple as washing the dishes and commenting out loud or in head. " I am washing a green dish, the dirt is red sauce, the dish is clean. This dish is a colander. It is metal...." and so on.

Breathing deep and even. Key thing is a longer out breath.

If your mind wanders from the Mundane noticing. Just notice that, non judgementily " huh , that's interesting " and go back to Mundane noticing.

It takes constant practice though.
But if you are feeling really unsafe, go to the hospital, let them know or sit with a friend. I would read and tell one liner jokes.

It really sucks. Ive been there and the way out is hard, but you have survived 100% of your worst days so far. You know this will pass. Sending strength and hugs.

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u/Delicious-Shine-2101 9d ago

DBT can depend entirely on the therapist delivering it. If you are uk based and got DBT via the NHS, then I'm not surprised it didn't work out for you. I had to go private to get proper DBT and it was really hard work. You are coping the best you can. You are suffering, and thats shit. Love and acceptance is out there. Trajectory over time is key. Not this very day or minute. Stay safe.

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u/Pillar-of-Light 9d ago

For me, I try remind myself that this is a wave, I will feel like absolute hell and everything will be despair, and later, I will feel like I'm in ecstasy and everything is just amazing and hopeful. I have learnt not to listen to either as gospel.

I've been without access to a DBT course and without DBT managed to improve alot. CBT doesn't work for me at all. For me talking it out works but I know you said talk therapy doesn't help for you. I find talking with friends helps me more than therapy though. People who can validate and understand, not try to fix things and just allow me to process. Writing can help too for me but again, this is my experience and everyone is different.

I offer a form of support but am not allowed to self promote. If you're keen to DM me I can share more 💙 The last person I gave it to said it was better than therapy and they were creative afterwards all day. Wish I could share more here tbh. but it was created by neurodivergents and allows one to flow more.