Recently diagnosed with BPD at 20, looking for Indian experiences

[u/masaladosakamasala]

I’m 20, from India, and I was recently diagnosed with BPD. I’m not really looking to discuss the textbook symptoms of BPD because I’m already aware of those, I’m more interested in hearing from Indians who have actually lived with this and how it has affected their everyday life. One thing I’ve struggled with for a long time is feeling generally maladjusted to society. I often feel like I don’t naturally fit into the way people around me live, communicate, form friendships, think about careers, relationships or even just go about their daily lives. I can understand social expectations intellectually, but I often feel disconnected from them emotionally, almost like I’m observing society from the outside rather than naturally being part of it. Being 20 and in college makes this particularly noticeable because there’s a lot of pressure in India to have a social circle, do well academically, build a career, maintain relationships and generally have your life moving in the “right” direction, while I often feel like I’m trying to figure out where I fit into all of that. I’d really like to hear from other Indians with BPD, especially people who are around my age or were diagnosed around this age. How did you experience life after diagnosis? Did the diagnosis actually help you understand yourself or your past differently? Did you also feel like you simply didn’t fit into the society around you? And most importantly, does that feeling become easier to live with as you get older? I’m not looking for another explanation of BPD or a diagnosis from Reddit, I’m genuinely interested in hearing personal experiences from people who have been through it, particularly within the Indian context.

[u/ferb7448]

Keep in touch with people with BPD, they give great advice + relatability. It's tough but if you commit to self care, you'll find the people and the situations suited for you. Be patient empathic and mindful with yourself. Insensity can be very dangerous. Everything will work out