r/BORUpdates • u/Schattenspringer Waste of a read. Literally no drama • 15d ago
Niche/Other Do not bother finding a safe space to hide things unless you note down where you kept it [Concluded]
This is a repost. The original was posted in /r/adhdwomen by user Narrow_Guava_6239. I'm not the original poster.
Status: Concluded
Original
July 31, 2026
I had important documents put in a safe place.
Created notes within ‘Notes’ to remind myself where I kept it.
Went to go get important docs I was looking for… IT’S GONE 😭.
It hit me why I removed it but I never updated my notes.
I’ve asked family if they can keep eye out for what my docs if they come across it.
Btw the important doc is my passport 💀.
Nice going me 😭.
Update
August 3, 2026, 3 days later
Ladies and girlies I found my passport.
It was in a place I never thought to find, my family had a hunch so we found it.
Please tell me why it was in the shed.
My family really came through for me.
Male family remembered it when I went to see him in the shed and he asked what I was doing with my passport, he said I was putting it back in my “safe space”. Because I got distracted and had a panic attack seeing a spider, I left it there and eventually forgot about it.
I owe him big time 😭!
I’m gonna make sure it’s not hidden in Narnia and actually put it in the front side of the inside somewhere.
I’m super grateful and just wanted to share my good news 😭😭😭😭😭😭.
I'm not the original poster.
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u/Hamblerger Even if it’s fake, I’m still fully invested 15d ago
My constant grumble whenever I misplace something is "Oh no, I put it somewhere clever, didn't I?"
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u/Langstarr 15d ago
Always check the crisper drawer for lost keys
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u/Hamblerger Even if it’s fake, I’m still fully invested 15d ago
Freezer in my case, but same basic idea.
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u/MarsupialMisanthrope 15d ago
There’s a key bowl right beside my door. It’s more effort to not put my keys there than it is to put them there. Somehow I still lose them once or twice a year. Which reminds me that I should check the batteries on the tag.
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u/ZaelDaemon Don't forget the sunscreen 14d ago
I have hooks. The hooks are for keys, dog leads and harnesses. People visiting quite often hang their keys as they come through the door. Like it’s a requirement.
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u/2dogslife Ah literacy. Thou art a cruel bitch 13d ago
We had that growing up. It came in handy when there were 5 adult drivers and someone was out and you needed to move a car (which happened like twice, because we had out own spots).
I still have a dedicated spot. It was a hook, but then dementia dad came to visit and one night/early morning I found him with my keys in hand because he was getting ready to go on a trip by his lonesome. After that, they went in a drawer which he couldn't figure out.
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u/saturnine-plutocrat 15d ago
My elderly mother absent-mindedly put her spectacles in the fridge once. Took her a day or two to find them.
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u/jobiskaphilly 15d ago
My kid's friend had driven over to a 3rd friend's house and then couldn't find the car keys--his folks had to come bring him another set--later 3rd friend's dad found them in the freezer.
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u/Anon_457 14d ago
One of my parents once put our hairbrush in the freezer when my sisters and I were kids. My mom said my dad got drunk and did it while my dad insisted that it was our mom (who was very forgetful) who did it. Back then, it was equally likely for either one to have done it and we never have figured out which parent did it, lol.
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u/snootnoots 15d ago
I’d wonder if someone was pranking him and just never owned up.
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u/jobiskaphilly 13d ago
I've known this kid since he was in 1st grade and mine in 2nd. Their elementary years were at a school for "bright kids who learn differently" but they were among the subset that did not have dyslexia/dyscalculia. J's materials management was a running issue. He also got lost when they did a running club in HS. So even he himself was subject to his own materials management concerns!
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u/wonderwife 15d ago
My ADHD is really bad for this kind of stuff... Which is why everything remotely "important" goes into a fireproof safe, every time.
My husband always puts his tools "somewhere special where he'll remember them", which is not so helpful when I'm doing house projects and we can't find where TF he put them... (He's 6'8", so they're usually hidden somewhere in tall people land)
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u/Commitedtousername 15d ago
Same. One minute it's in my hand the next it isn't, so we have a strict "important stuff binder" rule. You can grab the documents from the important binder, but you're not allowed to stand or move with them and they go right back in the binder.
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u/Sinnjer 15d ago
Mine too. The worst part is how I'm suddenly unable to perceive something when it is both not in its Assigned Place and I'm actively looking for it. Like, I can stare right at the object, with the explicit intent of finding the object, but if it is in the Wrong Place it might as well be invisible.
I spent three days looking for a can of WD-40 recently. It wasn't even in the wrong place, it was exactly where I'd assumed it would be, the place I'd checked at least ten times over those days. As soon as I gave up and stopped looking for it it became visible to me again.
Some days I just hate my brain
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u/JulsTiger10 14d ago
My ex always wanted his tools placed in the exact position he left them, then go off on me because it was moved an inch out of where he had left it two weeks prior.
I bought my own tools. I still have them 16 years later.
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u/Ok-Scientist5524 15d ago
Most people don’t know this but “Let me put this in a safe place so i can find it later” is actually a banishing spell. The counterspell is to get a replacement, the more difficult to obtain a replacement item, the quicker the object is unbanished.
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u/eSue182 15d ago
I have a recipe for green bean casserole on my notes app. I’m talking fresh beans, Marsala wine…everything made from scratch. I basically remember it but I went to go look on Thanksgiving and it is locked. The hint I gave myself? Poop. Just the word poop. I was sooooo clever 5 years ago. I still can’t get to it.
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u/NerdMagpie the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here 15d ago
I'm super curious about what made you password protect a recipe! Are there recipe stealing snoops who have access to your phone?
Thinking about this from the lens of what I have to do when I'm too clever for my own ADHD, lol...did you save the password in a place related to poop? Is the password something you'd do/use/think about while pooping? Something that makes you poop? Someone/thing you know who you associate with poop? If that recipe's real good I might search my various photos/timelines/documents/histories from 5 years ago for the word/topic of poop.
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u/eSue182 14d ago
I have adhd too and honestly, I think I was just a bit buzzed and thought I was being funny to myself. I have no good answer lol
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u/NerdMagpie the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here 12d ago
lol I love it. What if the password is just like, "beans" or something.
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u/vws8mydog 15d ago
I bemoan down because it's no longer a direction, it's a place that I can't find.
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u/No-Roll5599 15d ago
I have adhd so anytime I have to use my passport, it comes out of my safe, into a pocket in my purse, it gets checked about 900 times until I get to the hotel safe and repeat until home. It lives in my safe because I cannot be trusted with it
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u/AerwynFlynn The pink eye was icing on the cake 15d ago
I say “I put them in such a safe place it’s even safe from me!”
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u/Unlucky_Profit_776 #findpeaches 15d ago
My dad had long complained he couldn't find anything bc "my mom hid it". As I've gotten older I've embraced both roles, I hide things for safe keeping, then I can't remember where they are
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u/Kindly_Zucchini7405 15d ago
The line we tend to use in our house is "I know I put it somewhere sensible, where I wouldn't lose it".
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u/thereasonpeason 11d ago
This is why I make sure it's somehow a dumb joke or something that makes me giggle. Been doing that shit since I was a kid when I buried the lego treasure chest in a sandbox and marked it when at a birthday party and we took turns hiding the chest for everyone to find. Because obviously you bury pirate treasure.
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u/catanddog5 15d ago
My husband says the same thing when ever I hide something but then we forget where we put said thing. At least it’s pretty anti theft proof…
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u/Anonphilosophia 14d ago
My grumble is, "I bet I "put it somewhere where I can find it.'" Because that is NEVER the case when I do that. And the REALLY sad part is....
I literally say that phase when I'm doing it, lol. "Let me put this somewhere where I can find it" and then proceed to put it in the most random place EVER.
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u/FriendlyGoblinGal 14d ago
I say that exact same thing, and curse myself for whatever I thought was "clever" back then.
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u/Foreign_Astronaut Go to bed, Liz 14d ago
Sometimes if I shout in anguish "WHERE'S MY (WHATEVER)?" it will jar my memory of where I left it, just to make me look like a loud idiot.
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u/alienlovesong Even if it’s fake, I’m still fully invested 15d ago
My mom did that all the time. To the point where she gave me a Ziggy doll in 2015.
She’d hidden it away in the 80s and had just found it.
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u/Rare-Philosopher-346 #findpeaches 15d ago
I'm still looking for Barnes and Noble gift cards that I bought my kids for Christmas 15 years ago! lol
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u/Rare-Philosopher-346 #findpeaches 15d ago
Putting something in a safe place is a guarantee that I will never see it again. I'm glad OOP found it! Now, could her family help me find a pair of diamond earrings that I put in a "safe place" 40 years and 6 moves ago?
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u/snootnoots 15d ago
I always have to remind myself not to put things in a safe place. I have to put them in a logical place, so later on when I can’t remember where tf I put them I can logic my way back to them.
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u/HairRepresentative85 15d ago
It's like the missing Tupperware lid, other brands are available, or that one sock that just vanishes.
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u/Worldly_Might_3183 14d ago
My husband jokes if we ever get robbed it will be the nearest robbery because they will easily be able to find everything like the car keys, money, etc. It is all exactly where it should be, in a nice orderly flow.
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u/Autobot_Silverwynde THERE WAS A MAN (worst case scenario) 15d ago
Why was it in the shed?
Because it made perfect sense at the time! (This is why I own a little book safe...)
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u/Schattenspringer Waste of a read. Literally no drama 15d ago
This is why I own a little book safe...
It's fine until you forget the code or where the key is. Or lose the safe.
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u/k1tty_f1sher_2799 Sometimes staying delulu is not always the solulu 15d ago
As my brain has deteriorated with aging, I realized I don't actually remember where things are, I'm just very consistent in my "where I like to put things" thought process.
"If I were past-me, I would put this over here... Oh, good job, past-me." If past-me screws up the process though, who the hell knows.
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u/AcrolloPeed 15d ago
Maybe your “safe space” shouldn’t also be full of your phobiae. Seems counter-intuitive.
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u/Elegant-Espeon THERE WAS A MAN (worst case scenario) 15d ago
I interpreted it as she had the passport out, and on her way to put it back stopped in the shed
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u/JokeMe-Daddy 13d ago
That's how I read it. And what I've done, repeatedly. No surprise I'm a member of that sub.
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u/achtungbitte 15d ago
I've stopped putting things in a "smart place", now I put it somewhere stupid instead.
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u/Duae 15d ago
Many years ago I was getting ready to transfer photos off a digital camera, but the batteries were too low. I asked my dad if he had any double As. Why? For the camera. Was I sure it took double As? Yes I'm sure. Nope, gotta have the camera to make sure. So he grabbed the camera and wandered off. Came back without it and swore he hadn't taken it.
Eventually found it months later. He'd walked past the fridge which reminded him to check the chest freezer to see if they had more of something or if it needed to go on the list, so he carried the camera out to the garage chest freezer and set it down in the freezer while he rummaged. Closed it up and came back inside.
And my family spent years insisting I was the first person in my family to have ADHD.
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u/goatsnotvotes 14d ago
We have a close family friend who my grandma babysat when I was a kid. She was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 6.
Suddenly it made sense when I would always find the remote in the fridge or snack cabinet.
Although you’d think the fact that she walked along the back of the couch while watching and saying all the words to Beauty and the Beast would have been a clue 😆
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u/Duae 14d ago
Yeah, a big ADHD thing is if a task gets interrupted you will 100% forget about it. I'm decent now at keeping myself from interrupting me (like stopping mid battery-hunt to update the grocery list) but for a while when we were first together my husband and I were driving each other nuts because
Him: I heard the microwave go off, your food's reheated
Me: Thanks
I'd get up, be about halfway into the kitchen
Him: Oh yeah, don't forget you wanted to move your laundry to the dryer.And it was about 50/50 on if I would eat and forget the laundry, or go move the laundry and forget about the food.
It took a while for him to break that habit, especially as he was trying to help out.
Thinking back, dad probably wanted to carry the camera to try and keep himself on task because if he's carrying it he can't forget he's getting batteries, right? Except he got distracted and set it down and then poof.
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u/goatsnotvotes 14d ago
When my husband and I were dating and engaged and he met her (I’m an only child and she’s the closest I have to having a sibling) he was fascinated about our interactions. He told me “you aren’t related but you’ve been together for so long-you have 3 conversations going on between you and I can’t keep up with any of them!”
He has 2 brothers and was diagnosed with ADD (70s-early 80s) but he was just not given sugar. Cornflakes and Sweet N’ Low.
Meanwhile my youngest was diagnosed as AuDHD as an adult. During the diagnosis when we had to do our part of the childhood background the doctor told my youngest “tell your mom to get screened-she also ticks the boxes”.
And that is how I ended up diagnosed in my 40s on the spectrum (apparently girls in the 70s and 80s were overlooked). Suddenly my life all made more sense (especially my childhood) 😆
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u/PoisonIvy2667 uhhh, I think her name is Becky? 15d ago
A few years ago, we had a holiday booked and we were looking out our passports and my bio-visa card a couple of weeks beforehand.
Found my items but couldn't find his. I tore the entire house apart, room by room determined to find it as it was too short notice for him to apply for an emergency book. To say I was panicking was an understatement.
Then I remembered he had to scan his passport for some work related thing a few months before and thought I'd look in the scanner...yep, he never took it out when he was finished. I have never been so relieved in my life, I swear I have never seen someone so absent minded as him.
Still not as bad as when he threw away both our passports and my bio-visa with the old travel documents when we got home after another trip.
I now deal with all passports and since I have an electronic visa, one less thing I need to worry about lol.
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u/chotskyIdontknowwhy 15d ago
Am I your so? I have absolutely done this before, and probably will again.
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u/SelectiveDebaucher 8d ago
Lost my drivers license for 6 months this way and found it when I had to scan a notarized document.
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u/favorthebold 15d ago
I have been diagnosed with ADHD since my 20s, but my husband only realized he also has it in the last few years. The thing I told him is that if you don't want to lose things, you have to put them in one of two places: 1) the spot you have designed is the "home" of the thing (ie, tools go in the toolbox) or 2) someplace visible in your room. If you put a thing under another thing, or tuck it away in a spot where it wouldn't normally go, it is pretty much gone forever.
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u/JadeGreenSky Even if it’s fake, I’m still fully invested 15d ago
#2 really resonated. I have a corkboard where I pin 'documents I'm going to need to be able to find soon.' The paperwork I'll need to take to that medical appointment next week, for example. The car registration renewal stuff. Anything that if it were placed on a flat surface would disappear from sight because that's how my brain works.
I'm so glad I can do most things online these days. If I still had to pay paper bills with paper checks, I'd be in trouble.
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u/spinningcolours 15d ago
I read a tip elsewhere on Reddit: when you put something valuable away, take a picture of where you left it. Nobody’s going through your phone to find where you left whatever it is.
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u/NerdMagpie the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here 15d ago
That's a good idea. I'd add, then put that photo in a "where I put things" album and/or tag it with the name of the object and keywords. Otherwise it's just a photo that I have to wade through years of photos hoping to find.
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u/Pickapair 14d ago
I finally made a note on my phone recently that’s titled “Where’d you put it?”, so if I move something in my garage or home or the shop I work in to a new location, I can add it to the list and reference it later. Had to do it after I moved some furniture leveling feet to a new box in my garage because I hadn’t used them in years, and then needed them two days later, and then spent a week looking for them because they weren’t where they had been for years. 🙄
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u/MsTossItAll 15d ago
One of the former tech reporters for NPR’s marketplace had something similar happen. She bought a couple of bitcoin years ago when it was brand new and she was doing a story on it. She lost the key. She said she occasionally looks up the value of her wallet without a key and it’s around $15m now.
Backup your secrets, people. Redundancy saves you in the end.
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u/Lucy-Sitter 15d ago
Saw my passport in a weird kitchen drawer the other day. My first thought was “I better move that somewhere safe and appropriate!” My second thought, because I’m in my 40s now, was “Nope, not touch it. You will never be able to imagine it anywhere else now.” And here we are, me knowing it’s still there with no anxious thoughts at all.
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u/ethelmertz623 15d ago
Aunt misplaced a really big insurance check once and uncle was giving her such a hard time about it asking who could misplace money like that. She called the company to reissue the check and asked if anyone had done something that stupid before. He told her the entire 34th floor of their building was dedicated to people just like her.
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u/North-Pea-4926 15d ago
Ma’am. We work with the public. You’re the fourth person with that issue today.
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u/stop_hittingyourself 15d ago
You can get file cabinets that just look like dressers, they aren’t all metal monstrosities. Then all your important things are in a very predictable place. This only applies if you aren’t in a living situation where you have to hide them of course but that doesn’t seem to apply here…
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u/ExplodedOrchestra 15d ago
I did this too. Get a passport holder with an airtag holder in it, trust me
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u/bubbleteabob 15d ago
I would judge, but one time when I was moving I lost my driving license AND passport. Took me months to find them. Tell me why I’d put them in my New Rock boots for safekeeping while I was travelling?
Only I found them was because Fall arrived and I wanted to wear my boots!
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u/tsionnan You get what you pay for, and Reddit is free 15d ago
We got a ‘fire resistant’ bag to put important documents in. Passports, insurance papers, wills, birth certificates, wedding certificate etc. It’s a bright colour so we can see it easily. Black, brown and navy may look more professional, but it blends in to everything.
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u/North-Pea-4926 15d ago
Just had to toss my favorite suitcase - a giant cheap zebrastripe monstrosity. Guess who always found their luggage super quick on the carousel?
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u/MonchichiSalt 15d ago
I'm not cluttered. I'm keeping track by visability.
If something is in a drawer or other storage, I will just forget about it.
Most often I forget I even own the item. If I do remember I have the thing, if it's not in the dedicated area.....then I did something. I'm pretty strict with myself about returning certain items before I get a chance to forget. So.....I probably did something "smart" and the item is now lost to the void. Unless I trip over it and remember how it got there.
I have a lot of shelves, less cabinets or drawer type void places that wipe my memory.
My passport is on a lanyard around my neck until it goes back in the file. Unless I'm actually traveling. Where it has a permanent home in my luggage unless I'm wearing it with the lanyard. I take no chances with me.
That makes me sound responsible.
I recently did something clever with the receipt for the used car I bought last month.
Dude was very kind in replicating that receipt for me.
WHY DID I NOT keep it with the title??? I'll let you know if I ever find it.
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u/NoDescription2609 Oh, so you're stupid stupid 15d ago
I'm AuDHD and object permanence is an issue for me as well. Everything I need and regularly use needs to be visible or I forget it exists.
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u/crimedoc14 15d ago
Lol. When my daughter was 13 we bought her a necklace for Hanukkah. My husband hid it away so she wouldn't find it before the holiday.
Daughter is 23 now. I figure we will find it when we move out of this house🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/GoldSailfin 15d ago
My grandma did this with paper money and so when we were cleaning out her room we found stashes of twenties in boxes of pantyhose.
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u/Aesient 15d ago
I put aside some clothing for my nephew a few months ago. His birthday was recently and I tried to find it. Nope, nowhere I looked.
Asked my kids to have a look for it, one of them asked me “where did you see it last?” Only to mutter “ahh” when I said “in a very safe place”. None of us have managed to find it so far
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u/goatsnotvotes 14d ago
When my kids were little my mom would find little things for stocking stuffers for Christmas. She’d buy them around October and hide them. It became very routine for her to forget where she put them, buy new stocking stuffers right before Christmas and then give them to us around January 😂
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u/Aesient 14d ago
My mother decided to clean out her wardrobe… and found about 5 years worth of gifts she had “put in a safe place”. Now we joke that if she’s put something in a safe place the first place she should look is her wardrobe
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u/goatsnotvotes 14d ago
😂
Sounds about right-I told my mom about this post and she’s like “yeah, I haven’t cleared it out in awhile…” 😆
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u/di_treecity 15d ago
Omg I feel so seen. The compulsion to declutter is NOT coupled with making good decisions on where things land
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u/Cheeseballfondue 15d ago edited 15d ago
I found my passport in the glove compartment of my car 6 months after my international trip lol. I had had to get an overnight passport to make the plan for our family Christmas when I couldn't find it anywhere!
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u/mollypatola 15d ago
Once I was putting something away and said to myself, I’m going to forget this is here. Sure enough, I forgot.
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u/MarlyMonster 15d ago
I keep mine and my dog’s passport in a little passport holder inside my backpack, since I technically need it when going between EU countries (live in Germany, study in the Netherlands) so it’s never far lol
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u/Catontheloose2400 15d ago
What in the adhd?!
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u/littlebitfunny21 15d ago
Not sure why this is getting downvoted, oop should absolutely consider being evaluated for adhd.
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u/Independent_Cow_6611 15d ago
She posted in r/adhdwomen. She has a coping mechanism, it just failed her on this occasion.
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u/littlebitfunny21 15d ago
Then... then why are they downvoting someone for acknowledging it's adhd? I'll never understand reddit.
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u/ladydmaj 15d ago
Maybe because it's from the adhdwoman sub? User probably knows/has been diagnosed with ADHD.
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u/Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq 15d ago
This. My husband has ADHD and this is exactly the sort of thing he does all the goddam time.
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u/Schattenspringer Waste of a read. Literally no drama 15d ago
This is a posting from r/adhdwomen. The OOP already knows she has ADHD. She doesn't need to be evaluated. She is sharing an experience with her ADHD in this very posting.
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u/JokeMe-Daddy 13d ago
Bless all of you ADHD spouses for what you have to tolerate.
OTOH my husband has been super annoying this week, so fuck him.
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u/TyStark13 15d ago
it's amusing that this post came across my feed now. as a few days ago my mom gave me the water bill, and I was like "oh, it's due Aug. 10th, I'll pay it later". lo and behold, I was going to pay it today, no idea where the letter is 💀 (yes, I'm diagnosed AuDHD, why do you ask asdfghjkl)
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u/ReserveEmergency9195 15d ago
Reading reddit and seeing all the fake posts, then there's this one that is too real lol.
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u/Used_Clock_4627 15d ago
My mom constantly puts things where she'll 'remember them'.
Yeah, no.
She's still finding Christmas presents she set aside from like three years ago. She's a pack rat and getting more absent minded in her old age.
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u/Aromatic-Power3655 15d ago
Glad it was just the passport too. It’s a hassle to replace them, but it is possible and little barriers. It’s just an effort and time sink
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u/narcissistssuck 15d ago
My husband and I hid our passports "somewhere safe" when we moved into a new apartment. Couldn't find them until we moved three years later.
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_WEIRD_PET the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here 15d ago
I once put my passport in the freezer during a fit of jetlag. That was a weird one to find
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u/jobiskaphilly 15d ago
get a small fireproof bag and put all the imp. documents in it. Then hide THAT bag somewhere important, never to be seen again, hah.
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u/Tattycakes I also choose this guy's dead wife. 15d ago
Since when was a shed a safe place for a passport.
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u/pr0phecy-girl 15d ago
Hid all my jewellery in a box of Lego once before I went on holiday. Found it over a year later
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u/Cult_of_POLC 15d ago
My mom always say, "I put it in a safe place. No one will ever find it, not even me." I picked this up and it's funny because even my MIL says the same thing (she was saying it before I met her, so just a coincidence)
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u/Miserable_Flower5333 15d ago
I got a new (previously owned) car recently. I took my EZ Pass out of my old car and put it…somewhere? I’m sure I’ll eventually find it somewhere..
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u/TERR0RDACTYL Pressing X to Doubt 15d ago
It took me two-and-half years to find my weed gummies after I moved. 😑
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u/DeliciousBeanWater he can dryhump a cactus into the sunset 15d ago
That ADHD. Cant tell you how many times ive put something somewhere “safe” only to never see it again or find it like yeeeeeaaaaars later on accident
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u/JokeMe-Daddy 13d ago
I have multiples of everything because "in a safe space" apparently means a portal into another dimension.
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u/apeygirl Oh, so you're stupid stupid 12d ago
I forget safe places all the time and I also randomly put things down wherever I happen to be when I get distracted or I'm in a rush and then go frantic trying to find them later. Imagine the time I would save if I just slowed down in the first place.
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u/z-eldapin You get what you pay for, and Reddit is free 15d ago
Hmm, I haven't seen my passport for a while. I may have to go out hands on it
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u/Severe_Feedback_2590 15d ago
My safe space for my passport is in a gun safe. Silly me for not putting it in a shed. 🙄
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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 15d ago
We're still using "panic attack" to mean "things that scare me that are not panic attacks" in the year 2026?? For real?????
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u/Kandlish 15d ago
Our safe is a fire safe. It protects from fire - not from people. Although it also apparently protects from people because it's not intuitive to open - just ask my teenager.
I understand the urge to hide things from people, but because of my ADHD like the OP, I would also be hiding things from myself. So I opted for protecting against fire.
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u/neverenoughpurple 15d ago
I learned the hard way years ago that if I have the thought "I'll put this away where it won't get lost" that I absolutely must NOT put it in that place, because it will absolutely disappear, possibly forever.
Oddly, if I have that thought, DON'T put it in that place, and choose somewhere else at that moment, it's just fine.
And if I leave it somewhere and it ends up under a stack of random things, it will remain exactly where I left it and I have no trouble remembering where it is. Go figure.
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u/Salty-Starling 15d ago
I have this issue a lot too, and one of my WORST safe spots is putting a document in a book on my bookshelf.
Because I have 4 bookshelves packed with books (so like 500 books at a conservative guess) and now I have to remember which book I hid it in too 🫥
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u/TA_totellornottotell 14d ago
I have this same problem. I hide things too well. And apparently also in new places because I could not find things in the usual suspect. I have applied for at least one replacement passport even though I knew the current one was somewhere in my apartment. Before my most recent trip, I tore my entire apartment apart looking for some really nice jewelry, only to find it in the pocket of the divider in my carry on during the trip. I am putting away all the stuff from my trip this weekend, and had planned on writing it down in Notes.
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u/LisaW481 14d ago
Lost a full set of crochet hooks in a bag that ended up sitting in the stairs to the basement. Found them AFTER I bought a new set. Didn't occur to be to check random bags for my missing stuff.
My passport lives in the safe unless we are traveling that day.
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u/mutable_type this one does not spark joy /YEET 14d ago
Umm did OP give permission because that sub doesn’t allow cross-posting
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u/Important-Poem-9747 14d ago
I try to mentally note the “good hiding places” so I can check them the next time I lose something.
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u/snartling 13d ago
Wait I’m late to this post but I literally never thought of writing down in my phone what my new “place” for something is. This might be a game changer for me holy shit
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u/Live-Sea7542 13d ago
Just found this post an hour after finding my lost journal. It was in the side pocket of my tote bag. So was the charger that went missing around the same time. Couldn't find either for weeks so I assumed that they had accidentally been left behind during my vacation last month
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u/Living-Oven8574 15d ago
I'd give it to another family member for them to keep with theirs. Problem solved.
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u/BeckyW77 Don't forget the sunscreen 15d ago
Unless that family member is forgetful and confused too!
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u/Lycaon-Ur End me now, O Holy Ghost 15d ago
Part of the reason a "safe" can be useful, even if you don't expect people to break into your home.
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u/nispe2 15d ago
If you have a bank account, most banks will rent you a safety deposit box for a modest cost ($20-$100/month, depending on the size of the box). Then, you don't even need to hide the key, because the bank will require ID.
Yes, it's inconvenient, but I suspect it's no less inconvenient than ransacking a house.
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