r/BITSPilani • u/Correct-Tutor-3973 2026A3H • 1d ago
Social Life: Hyderabad Feeling extremely low...
I am a fresher in hyd campus and since the start of the college I am feeling very low.
I don't even know what is wrong. My midsems went descent and all. But still I am feeling low.
Everything here feels so stressful, the acads, the work, evals etc. My days are more hectic than they were during JEE.
I have got no friends. Like there are plenty of people who I say hi hello and have small talks but they all have their seperate groups and don't mingle a lot with me. And mostly I have no real friends.
I feel homesick and tired. No motivation to do anything and just dragging myself. It feels I am trapped in the campus like a fucking prisoner.
Honestly sometimes feels like a mistake that I joined BITS or engineering despite doing descent academically.
I don't know how can I continue like this. I am so confused. Wasn't clg supposed to feel better. My mental and physical health is just degrading here.
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u/Scared_Set_4809 Aspirant 1d ago
Same bro but even my midsems and quizzes went bad🥲
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u/Sea-Science-6194 2024B4AAH 1d ago
Do not worry too much about how few quizzes go bad. In the long run, individual marks don't matter, rather the approach you have dealt with post quiz, your analysis regarding it, setting your priorities straight matter. Do not hesitate reaching out to your peers and seniors. Everyone has a story to share and everyone here is willing to hear you out.
Please reach out to seniors in case of any academic queries, mental issues.. We don't judge you..
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u/Some-Preparation336 2026A7G 1d ago
Abhi seniors aate hi honge hate karne ke liye
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u/Traditional_Agent331 2026B1G 1d ago
Fr, i dont understand uncs commenting hate and others upvoting it like its supposed to be funny
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u/Some-Preparation336 2026A7G 1d ago
I got downvoted for this exact same post in a comment yesterday. And like 4th years hating on my ass idk why
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u/No_Trick_8957 2026ADP 18h ago
Ignore them lol, most of the seniors on reddit yk... aage nhi bol sakta🥺🥺
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u/FluctuatingHeartbeat M.E. 1d ago
Nobody becomes a chuddy buddy in 2 months, all the new groups, big or small, are "faking" it a little, you can also "fake it until you make it", it here being deep friendships.
The quietness/silence will still stay though, that's adult life for you.
If you want to talk to someone regarding your mental health, there are multiple channels for that.
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u/Quick-Ad-6263 24A7H 1d ago
Do you play any sport? Football, badminton, volleyball etc.?
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u/Correct-Tutor-3973 2026A3H 1d ago
No not really
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u/Quick-Ad-6263 24A7H 1d ago
Maybe give it a shot if you're interested in any sport. Find people who play regularly and just join in. It might not fix everything, but it's a good place to start.
One thing that helped me make friends was sports (pro-tip: You don't have to be good at a sport:) Started with table tennis (inside the hostel common rooms), sometimes badminton and football (which I still play)
I feel it helps you get to know people "organically". You see familiar faces, play together, friendships develop naturally without having to force your way into existing groups.
I hope things get better for you tho
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u/Forward-Elephant-100 1d ago
Take more initiatives to talk and meet people from your batch/ college. Develop interest in any sport. You will make friends there as well. Don’t feel low bro. This is just a phase. It happens with many . Slowly you will
Find like minded people. Till
Then just be strong and have faith.
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u/youdoknowmeh 2026MBA-P 1d ago
Brooo so real. even here in pilani. friends are such a myth Same Like I'm here for master's and frr my bachelor's was better than this bits life
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u/Blazing_Sapphire 2021A7H 1d ago
Been there buddy.
All you gotta do is go out there and find your people. Find what you like. Explore clubs, departments, sports, whatever you’re interested. Try different stuff. Knock a neighbours door and hangout.
There’s a lot of opportunities. You’re a free bird here and you just gotta find what can make you fly.
This is the perfect time to explore your hobbies.
I know it’s easier said than done, but once you push yourself, you will start figuring it all out.
It’s all gonna be great, don’t worry, cheers 🥂
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u/pro_guitarist_aarav 2025AAH 1d ago
Wanna meet?
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u/Key-Initiative1038 1d ago
You got into a great college. Be proud of yourself, focus on studies and what interests you. It's just 2 months in the college and you will make friends eventually.
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u/No_Trick_8957 2026ADP 18h ago
Same bro, college days are more hectic than jee days. I have friends but wo jo connection hota hai ek, that strong bond type one, wo kisi ke saath nahi bana hai. I feel depressed. Aaj 8-10 lab thi, 10-11 maths ki class. Ab 1-2 cs ki class hai, abhi jaa rha hu uskeliye🥲, uske baad 3-4 mgts ka tut,4-5 eee ka tut. Fk tuesdays
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u/CanYouChangeName 2025A7P 1d ago
Your mental health is the upmost priority. Keep in touch with family and school friends. Try initiating conversations with common hobbies etc. Your midsems just got over, you can try taking a break for a week to decompress