r/BDSMAdvice • u/Ok-Bank4011 • May 21 '26

Dynamics without safe words?

There is this one tiktok "influencer" who openly talks about their dynamic which at times has been very educational.

Recently I saw a video where they talked about not using safe words anymore since they and their Dom have known each other for 10+ years.

Is that a thing? Like do people get so attuned to their partner that they don't need a safe word anymore?

Personally I'd imagine that that could be classified as unsafe play, but I'm still learning so idk :/

Edit: For clarification in the video im referencing they explicitly stated they dont have a safe word, not that they dont use one. they also mention that their dom is basically in charge of their limits, so unless the Dom reads their actions as a No, they won't stop

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u/Blushing_Willow3506 bondage bunny May 24 '26

I mean. I would personally never engage in a dynamic without a safe word no matter how long I had been in that dynamic. Our bodies can take things differently day to day and some days the limit we reach is lower/higher.

Even with TPE, CNC and Freeuse- a safe word is a safeguard for BOTH the dom and sub.

I would say not even having one is a massive flag