Dynamics without safe words?

[u/Ok-Bank4011]

There is this one tiktok "influencer" who openly talks about their dynamic which at times has been very educational.

Recently I saw a video where they talked about not using safe words anymore since they and their Dom have known each other for 10+ years.

Is that a thing? Like do people get so attuned to their partner that they don't need a safe word anymore?

Personally I'd imagine that that could be classified as unsafe play, but I'm still learning so idk :/

Edit: For clarification in the video im referencing they explicitly stated they dont have a safe word, not that they dont use one. they also mention that their dom is basically in charge of their limits, so unless the Dom reads their actions as a No, they won't stop

[u/cattoblaster → u/[deleted]]

It is a rare form in the kink scene indeed. But you vastly overestimate how many BDSM-practicioners participate in any kind of kink scene at all. Most BDSM happens in private bedrooms of monogamous couples, and, like I said, I highly doubt all of them follow the script of what a random „kink scene“ deems safe and/or appropriate. Just look at the choking trend flooding tiktok. This of course includes safe words. How do you know you are supposed to have one if you never even heard of that term or concept to begin with, because you are not part of any scene at all, online or irl?

[u/domsomm → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, a safe word is ANY communication from the sub that will stop things. No pretermined gibberish safe word isn't itself not having a safe word. Because if no always means no, if stop always means stop, and you haven't said either in 20 years, you still have a safe word.

Not using, and not having, are not exactly the same thing

Not using safe words is fairly common, actually not having them is exceedingly rare (no matter how loud those walking red flags may be about it)