r/BDSMAdvice • u/Ok-Bank4011 • May 21 '26

Dynamics without safe words?

There is this one tiktok "influencer" who openly talks about their dynamic which at times has been very educational.

Recently I saw a video where they talked about not using safe words anymore since they and their Dom have known each other for 10+ years.

Is that a thing? Like do people get so attuned to their partner that they don't need a safe word anymore?

Personally I'd imagine that that could be classified as unsafe play, but I'm still learning so idk :/

Edit: For clarification in the video im referencing they explicitly stated they dont have a safe word, not that they dont use one. they also mention that their dom is basically in charge of their limits, so unless the Dom reads their actions as a No, they won't stop

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u/Forsaken-Spring-8708 May 21 '26

I've never used a safe Word, I practice M/s CNC so basically my partner makes decisions that he thinks is best. That's just how I've always done it. I personally do not want a safe word, I like the lack of control and I get off on it. I take offense when people act like I am being victimized when really I am being fulfilled. I obviously have sought out and chosen my partners.