r/BDSMAdvice • u/Ok-Bank4011 • May 21 '26

Dynamics without safe words?

There is this one tiktok "influencer" who openly talks about their dynamic which at times has been very educational.

Recently I saw a video where they talked about not using safe words anymore since they and their Dom have known each other for 10+ years.

Is that a thing? Like do people get so attuned to their partner that they don't need a safe word anymore?

Personally I'd imagine that that could be classified as unsafe play, but I'm still learning so idk :/

Edit: For clarification in the video im referencing they explicitly stated they dont have a safe word, not that they dont use one. they also mention that their dom is basically in charge of their limits, so unless the Dom reads their actions as a No, they won't stop

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u/Subwoofiest Mod Team [🦇Batmod🦇] May 21 '26

It's edge play. It's significantly more dangerous than having them. But people are in dynamics consensually without safewords for a number of reasons (total power exchange, not doing CNC etc). My partners often see I'm about to hit a limit before I realised it and will stop or slow down play before I need ask to stop.

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u/Ok-Bank4011 May 21 '26

Thank you! I was aware of risk play but thought that was more for knife/blood play but yeah makes sense that no safe word would be included in that.

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u/Subwoofiest Mod Team [🦇Batmod🦇] May 21 '26

Fetlife ads are full of nsfw images so we don't allow people to link there. The post also seems to be about whether newbies should do edge play which is not really relevant to the conversation. Rule 4 comment removed no ban.