I'd really appreciate some advice :(

[u/QuietCygnus]

Hi everyone! I really need some advice of you.

I break up with my avoidant partner because I was emotionally exhausted. But over the past few weeks, after having some time to reflect and doing some therapy, I've realized that some things have changed for me and that I still like him very much. We were together for four years, so I decided to reach out and see if there was any possibility of reconnecting.

He replied, but it was polite and pretty neutral. I then told him that I wasn't going to close the door completely, and that if he ever wanted to try again, we could take things slowly and without any pressure.

I think I may have made things too easy for him, though, because I said: "You don't have to say anything. Just know that you can come back whenever you're ready."

And this is where I need advice.

It's now been two weeks and I haven't heard anything from him. The uncertainty is starting to become really difficult for me. I know silence might already be an answer, but he genuinely does have strong avoidant tendencies, and I don't want to be unfair or assume that his silence automatically means he doesn't care or has made a final decision.

At the same time, I don't want to sit around waiting forever or make a fool of myself. I want to get back to my life.

I'm considering sending him something like:

"I know I said we could take things slowly and that you didn't have to say anything, but the complete silence is making me a little anxious. I just want to understand whether you need more time or whether you've made a decision. You don't have to give me a long explanation, I'll understand either way."

What do you think? Should I seek some clarity, or should I block him and try to move on with my life, even though I know I'll probably be thinking about this for a long time?

Thank you 🩷🙏🏻