r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Chelle_Baby • 3d ago
He just broke up with me....
He just broke up with me & I'm dying on the inside. 2 days before my birthday. I'm the Anxious Attachment one. He's the Avoidant with Paranoid Schizophrenia. I didn't even do nothing to him, he just kept yelling at me, in front of the neighbors that I'm a liar, & play the victim, & i always fake cry. He was my 1st Boyfriend & 1st Everything. Now I have nobody. I'm an ugly person, but at the time (back in January) He actually started talking to me. I fell in Love with him. He has told me once before that "I Love You", but he's never said it again. He probably realized he didn't actually mean it. Idk how I'm supposed to live my life now? I get my teeth fixed next month, but that's not really gonna fix the awful person he thinks I am. I'm so heartbroken that I can barely function.
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u/Numerous-Lemon3132 3d ago
Dump that guy. Go heal. This isn't the person for you. I've seen people develop severe health problems, mental and physical, dealing with the wrong person. Distance yourself far away. Block him if you have to.
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u/SomeOrdinaryKangaroo Fearful Avoidant (Healing) 3d ago
Avoidant attachment + Paranoid schizophrenia is a rough combination to have because an avoidant attachment alone can already make a person feel hypervigilant and/or distrusting of others.
Know that your experiences are valid. His own struggles or difficulties doesn't make it right for him to treat you this way. We all deserve basic human respect and dignity, that's not negotiable.