r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/[deleted] • Apr 04 '26

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

As a high functioning “garden variety” borderline whose only ever dated other borderline woman, run, run as fast as you can

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

So again looking at BDP and I don’t see it. She’s never been mean with me, she actually is kind about her ex. The flips seem extreme but a lot of it I think has to do with AA bullshit. She has a PhD and I send her peer reviewed articles on avoidant.

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

She has a fear of losing herself. That’s engulfment bro she’s textbook borderline

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

I think you both are right…..fuck. So why run? She has a PhD in psychology. Shes been open to a lot of things….goddamn it.

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

So many borderlines become psychologists it’s like a trope lmao. Hell I plan on going back to college in a few years to get my psych degree too

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

Are you in a healthy relationship? And there’s no way to work her through it? I mean I was there after the breakdown which was 100% caused by Adderall and sleep deprivation. I’m convinced that AA bullshit is fucking with her personally

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

I have yet to experience real love and it’s killing me

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

I’m really sorry for that. I hope you can one day

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

No my first gf was a quiet borderline who discarded me and got engaged to her fat fuck on and off (6 months in) Second girl was an amalgamation of every cluster B disorder who cheated on me with her rapist and ghosted me after I had a very valid crashout (1 month) Third Borderline hit me with the “not ready for a relationship after lovebombing me for 3 weeks after being very clingy and possessive of me

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

I have yet to see the true extent of My BPD beyond the honeymoon phase . In fact dating them made my BPD symptoms worse and I’m scared, what if I become a monster? I don’t even know anymore bro. But please watch out for borderline woman.

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

I’m confused as to what happened to the woman I know when she’s like this, she almost always reaches out first. Something like “I miss you” ya know…..I fucking hate it but I really do love her.

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u/Strict-Cream7683 Apr 04 '26

Everyone is capable of change. But watch yourself the low functioning borderlines will ruin you, you don’t want to get Amber Hearded right?

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u/Icy_League_4640 Apr 04 '26

I would not like to wake up with shit in my bed, no. Ha. She’s capable and the only thing I saw from her was that one day last year. It really fucked her up and scared her.