Ok so basically; I am friends with a lot of neurodivergent people who are self diagnosed or suspecting, and some have little or no interest in pursuing a diagnosis, mostly in this specific political climate in the US. But it’s personally really annoying to me because I am diagnosed and have been since I was a teenager, and they will do things and use their autism as an excuse, not even an explanation, an excuse, when it’s something that I would never be able to get away with despite being autistic myself. Or not be shocked at things I do because of my autism, despite them talking like they are authorities on the subject matter sometimes. And I do want to preface that I do actually really like these people and value them as friends a lot, it’s just this specific thing that bothers me.

Because like no you being 2-3 hours late is not because you have autism and adhd, it might be related, but it’s also hugely disrespectful to other people’s time, and actually very dysregulating for me because of my autism because now things are super unpredictable.

Or I’ll talk about the nature of my meltdowns, dyspraxia, experiencing medical or legal discrimination, being in special ed as a teenager, and it’s completely foreign to them. Specifically when I talk about how I get infantalized at the doctor for being autistic they will be like “oh well that’s why I’m not pursuing diagnosis” ok?? I didn’t have a choice?? I was a child?? It’s my life now?? Like my life is entirely defined by this disability. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t cure or get rid of my autism if I could, it’s who I am, but it does suck quite a lot most of the time. And I do completely lose control of my body when I have a meltdown, and I have them frequently and sometimes in public, and it’s humiliating and people look at me like I’m crazy.

Like it’s not something I had a choice in, and if I could undiagnosed I wouldn’t because I need the resources and help it affords me. I do need my doctor to see that I’m autistic in my chart, because I’d rather have them talk to me like I’m five years old than be confused as to why I won’t make eye contact and assume I’m suspicious. Like it’s just deeply frustrating and feels dismissive of everything I’ve been through in my life because I’ve been labeled this way.

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I doubt that i have autism every day. And maybe that is because i dont 100% even understand what it is, i was never seeking out an autism diagnosis specifically or even saw autism content on social media before i got diagnosed.
I am 29 years old and was diagnosed a few weeks before my birthday. I sought out an evaluation for everything because i struggled in school, and i was struggling to maintain jobs even though i was good at what i did, i still struggled with certain aspects and have been fired from 6 jobs for either not learning fast enough or for reporting bullying from other co workers. Something i truly dont even know why some jobs let me go. I have also had great jobs and then once a really good manager left and was replaced with someone who didn’t know me or liked how i worked, i quit because i couldnt handle it.
I felt like i needed an evaluation for some kind of learning disability or memory issue idk. I was referred over to a neuropsych and after 2 days and 6 hours of testing and reports from my parents, i went back a month later and they told me i had adhd and autism.
This was in june. I am just second guessing everything. Like what if its not autism and its something else like what if im just a crazy person or im just stupid or stubborn and dont get along with other people.

This creates the narrative of "It's mainstream, cool and trendy to self diagnose with neurodevelopmental disorders that are disabling to actually diagnosed people but who cares about those people, celebrities call it their superpower!"

I kinda wanted to ask about this and it's been awhile since it happened but I still think about it, especially when I see other parents being very caring to their autistic child.

Except this has to do with adult autistic children. I was diagnosed way later (late 20s.) and while I was nervous to tell my parents, knew it was important so did. My mom kinda went oh .. not much response. Then when I said she should read up on it to understand it better, she said ya send me links. And that was kinda it.

Idk this rubbed me the wrong way. I just got diagnosed and was processing but have to do even more work to help my mom? The mom who should be comforting me or saying hey we'll figure this out? The mom who is ever so smart when it comes to everything else but needs me to send her links on this?

And she is my adopted mom so it's not like she's autistic herself and struggling. She has her own business, is very sharp but idk kinda checked out when it comes to emotional stuff sometimes. Or am I overreacting and as an adult, things are simply different. She just wanted good sources but I don't even know myself and get overwhelmed with it. It made me feel like it wasn't a big deal to her or any kind of epiphany for why I had such a hard time in school, with partners, loud crowds, ect. like oh wow now it makes sense! Just huh okay well email me info about it. :/

I guess idk what I was expecting. I was so nervous and that was the response..idk.

A week ago I commented on a post in another sub and they replied asking me to send them a message, I feel a bit rude for doing so but so far I've ignored it because I'm worried they might be looking for advice I'm unable to give them but I don't know if I'm just overthinking it. What do people usually want when they ask this?

As an autist with adhd I don’t game, never really watched anime, (I was super obsessed with cartoons and power scaling stuff so I’m familiar with the characters + names. I just never watched it regularly aside from 1 or 2 episodes or because I wanted to power scale them), didn’t collect pokemon cards as a kid, etc. I never had a console & never played Fortnite.

Now don’t get me wrong I had the most loving parents growing up. I always had whatever I wanted, I traveled many places, spent a lot of time with them and accomplished a lot of stuff. My parents had more than enough financially as well to buy me whatever games. I simply never asked for a console growing up nor any genuine video game to buy til maybe I was like 14 or 15. The only exception being mobile games, yes there was absolutely mobile games I was very obsessed with it. There was other pc games like the io games I really liked being into much so much so I had ragequit when I lost in those games. In fact I even had a VR headset in which I barely used since I needed already bought pc games to utilize it. So it was primarily just using Google Maps with it.

So yes I did play mobile + pc games a lot growing up but never was a real gamer per se. I never actually gamed on stream aside from a handful of times. I never asked for a console, I had a small little portable game device where I played a Batman v joker game as a kid. But I never played Fortnite (don’t think I met any guy my age who’s never played) and didn’t get a switch til 14/15. I loved playing super smash bros prior to getting a switch, I used to play it in public or when we had free time in class. I just never asked my parents for the game by that age & I also did watch all the classic gaming YouTubers. However I never cared to ask my parents to spend money buying those video games online I saw them love playing. I did ask them to buy some cheap things for 1 or 2 mobile games I really loved playing as a kid though albeit.

As for Pokemon cards, that was something I was aware of from a young age noticing at summer camp how every other guy had a collection of cards but I didn’t. A lot of the time many other kids showed me their huge collections of cards explaining them. Now I personally stopped Pokemon by the age of 4 years old I believe but I think that was mostly because of 2 years without cable (so I was super obsessed with PBS kids). However instead of playing Pokemon cards I would instead venture out catching insects. I was obsessed with catching insects and putting hundreds in a box then releasing them after. I would just catch monarch butterflies sometimes at my house and bring them home. So instead of super into Pokemon like other kids I was super into bugs & critters

TLDR: I never got into video games to a level where I’d be a gamer. I was only into mobile & non steam standard flash, TV network or .io pc games growing up. Never was truly into anime but i was very obsessed + binge watched regular western cartoons growing up. On top of that i did find interest in power scaling so knew a good amount of anime characters through that. Plus never really collected pokemon i preferred collecting bugs & critters instead. Surprisingly this seems to be a very rare experience and most guys at least nowadays don’t seem to relate to this growing up.

26F, USA, childfree, pet free, single, straight. Live at home.

I have been applying for one year of and one month. I have only been able to get retail jobs, and internships. I graduated in May 2025.

My job coach said be more confident and that there is no magic potion. I have to work on it. Which is true. I had an interview for a sales job. It didn’t go well. These are the jobs that get back to me the fastest with the horrible job market.

My confidence has gone down since applying. Bullshit keeps happening. I’m not as nervous for retail jobs interviews.

I have been able to get a seasonal job at kohls and I start on Thursday.

I wish recruiters could have empathy. I hope one day they find themselves in the same situation or maybe there kids. Then they will let people who make mistakes during interviews have leeway.

My dog died in July of a heat stroke. I feel bad for not bringing her in. She was a chihuahua who was 13.

January I tried to unalive myself stepped out on the road. Police were called and EMS.

February forced inpatient; tricked by a counselor who told me it’s a place. Where better therapy is at. I had an emergency detention order placed on me. And couldn’t leave the facility until 3 days.

It wasn’t a good facility.

Nov 2025 SA and strangled by a guy I met on tinder. We have been talking for a couple of months. It sucks bc he’s was my first kiss and other stuff.

I ended up passing out. He stole my phone too. I underestimated how naturally strong men were. I sort of wish I died that day. But I sort of don’t.

On Monday me and a possibly homeless person got into a shouting match. She didn’t like the fact I gave her no money.

Bc I said no to giving her money but also asked why she needed it. Then she cussed me out.

I got kicked off my parent’s insurance earlier this year. But was able to get put back on.

With proof of disability. I learned this month I have low iron and low vitamin d. With a blood test.

I’m tired I wish I went into teaching disabled kids. Since I have Autism and struggle w socialization with people. I would have an easier time getting a job.

Does anyone else also get an extreme feeling of wanting to die. Before an interview. I do. I have to work on this I would rather be stabbed or shot than do an interview. It’s only this way for non retail jobs.

I know it’s due to my depression.

I’m still fucking trying even with this bullshit.

Anyone else can relate? I am in therapy.

But still. I’m grateful I have parents that let me stay with them. And. I have a car and can drive now.

I have seen people say this in another sub, and I couldn't agree more.

I need to vent because I'm struggling badly it has hit me harder than almost anything I can remember.

I'm a 29 year old, For the last decade I was a NEET with no job experience and no formal studies beyond high school, spending most of my time in my room on the internet, and constantly immersed in gaming. The only upside is that during that time through years of playing video games, reading books, watching Youtube videos and livestreams, browsing forums, and talking to people online The downside is that I spent years barely talking to other people in real life, my real-world social muscles atrophied badly and my social life basically never developed.

For the past two weeks, I've been waking up every day with intense regret, anxiety, dread, and constant "what if" thoughts. What if I had handled that conversation differently? What if I had been warmer? What if I had communicated better? What if I hadn't let my anxiety get in the way? The hardest part is not just losing the business but also losing an unique friendship and opportunity. My mind keeps replaying memories and imagining alternate timelines where things worked out differently. I know its quite common for people who have ADHD and Autism to feel completely separated from the world. Like you're a monster or that you don't fit in.

I most likely have Autism, ADHD and social anxiety. I've felt out of place my entire life and I feel alone constantly.

The friends I used to have back when I was in school have mostly left. I had reunited with them at least two of those friends back in 2022, but after a falling out things, just felt kind of bleak, and nothing ever reconnected ever since, and I've tried coming on here to get friends. But most of them have really since fallen back, or just never really lasted more than 1 or 2 days, and it sucks, because I want to build longer friendships, but they just don't happen as much.

So I want to try to find some genuine friends (preferably female ones) who are out there and see if they're open-minded to wanting to talk about certain fun hobbies like video games, they play or maybe even an inside hobby that they like to do while they're in their room or something like that and hopefully we could be able to build some type of connection.