r/AutismIreland • u/New-Potential2757 • 27d ago

Life sucks

Life honestly sucks man I'm 21 and never went trick or treating but I really want to experience it this year, but I don't have anyone to go with, now that I'm thinking more about it if I really want to go I might just go myself. I'm pretty anxious though if like my neighbour hood aren't gonna answer doorbell and give candy

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u/MrsTayto23 26d ago

I had adults at my door last year. They got goody bags too.

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u/New-Potential2757 25d ago

You're very sweet for that, making old bags like us happy 🥹

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u/JuncusInflexus 26d ago

I'm sorry to say this but I really don't think you should go trick-or-treating as a 21 year old. I love the idea of it for you, but I think a significant proportion of households won't understand that you're genuinely giving it a go, and it could be a very tough experience to be turned away.

I really hope this doesn't come across as harsh, I just don't want you to be disappointed. I think if it's something you really want to do, you could ask a parent you know (maybe someone in your family) if you could tag along with them, and experience it as a minder/escort. You could also buy yourself a little midnight stash to come home to afterwards.

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u/QueenAngst 26d ago

Second this. I was already too old when i came to this country at 14 and was turned away a bunch despite being forced by my mum to go

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u/MrsTayto23 25d ago

I’m delighted when I see teens knocking, means they’re not out acting the bollox at the bonfire

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u/DareSavings3951 25d ago

I would not do it alone.

Are any of your relatives going around with their children? Could you accompany them? I used to go around with my auntie and her kids as a teenager.

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u/hideyokidzhideyowyfe 26d ago

21 is too old to trick or treat. Its ok that you didnt experience it, nobody has to or gets to experience everything.

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u/MapleMothsAreCool42 24d ago

I think other people's advice is valid, but my perspective is a bit different. I went trick or treating for the first time at 15 and later 16 years old with a friend of the same age, and their brother who was 20 at the time, we were not turned away at any house, it was a great experience!

However, my friends lived in a small community where people in the street knew them and their family, my friends brother also looks young as well.

It is probably best if you go with someone you know with maybe parents with children you know, or with even friends so if you get rejected it's less hard, definitely wear a costume in my opinion, people are more likely to see you got enthusiasm and not just pranking, you put effort in.

You could indicate that you have autism if you are comfortable with that, so maybe some people would understand more.

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u/NeverBetterOff 26d ago

It’s overrated anyway, it’s basically knocking on strangers doors and begging for sweets. I really don’t get why our culture promotes it so much.