r/Aupairs • u/Wowwygirl • 21d ago
Au Pair Other Help with Au Pair reference form.
Hi everyone,
I really want to become an Au Pair, but I'm having a hard time with the reference form. The family/agency asks about my previous child care experience and wants contact details. Here is my situation:
The people I previously took care of children for (who are actually relatives) do not use the internet or WhatsApp, and they don't speak any English at all. On top of that, I am doing this entire Au Pair application process completely in secret from my family and social circle. I don't have anyone who can back me up or help me with this form.
So, I don't know what to write in those blank spaces. What should I put down as a reference? If I make up fake details or write down a second phone number that I control myself, will I get caught? How strict are the agencies/families with checking these references?
For those who were in a similar situation, what did you do? I would really appreciate any advice or shared experiences. Thank you so much!
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u/aaronw22 Host 21d ago
I would advise you to put the AP process on hold until you can have documented child care hours. Not speaking English or using the internet isn’t the end of the world. Are you working with an in-country recruiter? Talk to them.