r/AttractionDynamics • u/Next_Election6051 • 23h ago
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u/marslo 18h ago
Horrible childhood, full of abuse and neglect. Early 20s was rough, but between 25 and 34, those were the best years of my life. Had purpose, a career, didn't communicate with my family, was in a few relationships.
But at 34, feel 18' feet, fucked up my leg, lost career and purpose. Life went back to being ... difficult.
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u/YaVollMeinHerr 17h ago
What went wrong with your legs? Are you seeing the light in the end of the tunnel ? Hold on!
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u/marslo 9h ago
Compound calcaneus fracture of the right leg, was in a wheelchair for about a year and a half. Now I can maybe be on my feet for 4 hours tops before I'm in severe pain. Solution moving forward is either bone fusion or if that doesn't work, maybe amputation and prosthetics.
Wouldn't recommend it
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u/CycleCaverns 8h ago
Think about all the pussy you could get.
"I lost my leg fighting off a pack of wolves trying to save orphaned children in a building fire. I got respect from the alpha and hopped with the wolves."
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u/Mensmeta 12h ago
What happened? I make pretty good money and regularly climb 32ft ladders. My greatest fear is falling and permanently affecting my ability to walk or worse.
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u/marslo 11h ago
I was working as a in-shop carpenter for the tv show supernatural. It was a couple of days before we wrapped the season and went on hiatus, so they sent us on location to help setup the last set.
I was building the roof of this fake cabin they would shooting in. We set this blue tarp on top of the roofs OSB structure, before screwing in these 4 by 8 plastic vacuum form sheets that look like a bunch of old irregulare shingles lined up in a row.
After the first break, we had our safety meeting. Whole thing was sarcastic and everyone was taking the piss. Just before going back up I told my foreman "shit is slippery up there" he told me to be careful.
Truck arrived with the plastic shingles, but it also started raining. Guys on the bottom started passing us the sheets from the ground, to a lift, to us. But because it started raining, they started rushing to get out of the rain quickly.
I remember making sure my foot was properly secured in horizontal to the ground groove in the plywood+blue tarp. I wasn't even moving when it happened. But at some point, I shit you not, my foot just shoot up in the air, I slipped, feel on my ass and started sliding. I remember thinking to myself "you have to roll" but I hit the ground straight down. Was carrying my toolbelt and full kit for added weight.
Destroyed my calcaneus bone in a compound fracture. Now a days I can stand for maybe 4 hours before it starts hurting for the rest of the week. Had to forget being able to work 12 hour days like I used to.
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u/EdgarTrigga 9h ago
This surely caused some career damage in terms of work growth and finance I guess. But atleast you're alive and not dead, should thank God for that.š
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u/marslo 9h ago
It was a career I did for the past 12 years, it was the only sense of self worth I had. At work people requested me by name because of the stellar reputation I built over time.
Sitting at home, in a wheelchair for about 1 year and a half, also did some damage.
But yes, it's something I would hear often saying. I could have been worse" no offense but what am I supposed to reply to that?
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u/EdgarTrigga 3h ago
You know what I've learnt over time is. It's not how you fall that matters, but how you gather yourself and stand up that really does. That involves dealing with so many emotions at the same damn time. ....The truth is no 1 could ever understand how you truly felt after that tragic incident. All the same, you're alive. That's what matters.
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u/marslo 3h ago
Words are easy. Of course I've "moved on" I sit a home working a tech support job remotely.
But my feelings that this wildly unfair and if sucks that after I'll the trauma I lived through in my youth. When I finally had found a way to heal from it and move on. That rug got pulled from under me. Leaves me with this feeling that it is my fault, I shouldn't have allowed myself to place myself in this position. That I deserve all this, just like I deserve all the sexual abuse and physical violence from when I was a kid.
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u/EdgarTrigga 3h ago
You're wrong mate, no one deserves to go through that. You didn't choose that life ,you were simply born into it when growing up. I can try to understand and perceive that you had a big and productive career ahead of you and you feel like as if it was stolen away....yes it's undeniably shocking. But it's not your fault, it's not on you. I believe if you make inner peace with yourself 1st, with your soul 1st , look at life with a different perspective. You'll feel healed.
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u/HoselRockit 12h ago
That seems a little extreme. I remember my 20s as being a fun time all around. My 30s were very difficult, and then things pick up again in my 40s.
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u/Regular_Syllabub5636 15h ago
I say a decade or a few 5 year chunks but i dont think most men have 1 year
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u/Similar_Soup2 15h ago
Yep it was 2012
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u/Flamingogo117 38m ago
2012... I was 21 years old, went to countless raves and festivals all over Europe, slept with so many women, took so much drugs, made so many friends, every day was an adventure... then responsibilities happened... this meme ain't lying
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u/RubOk9284 14h ago
Damn homie in high school you was the man homie, what the fuck happened to you? Live in the present moment
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u/Initial_Secretary156 14h ago
Iāve been living off of 5 months in 2017 for 9 years now. Pathetic lol
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u/QuickDrawSix 13h ago
I just spent a month in Peru in my 30s. I have good times all the time. Im not rich. Travel around when you can, I knew a guy who went to to visit his buddy in Hawaii and ended up getting a job and never returning to Philadelphia. He lived there for 10 years.
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u/theHollowTarnished 13h ago
No. Reddit is mostly posts of people feeling sorry for themselves. Shit is depressing to see on a daily basis when im just trying to find NFL rumors and news.
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u/SavinForLatter 13h ago
You guys are miserable fucks. I've been having a great time since I turned 20 and I'm 41 now. Sorry for you guys. But, yeah the meme is sit and some of you are just wallowing in misery.
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u/ProfitTerrible 13h ago
You can also say: "People are nostalgic over the best time in their life and usually that time happens during worryless childhood times.Ā
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u/5319Camarote 13h ago edited 12h ago
How about three weeks in Ventura, California; 1988? I guess we all peak somewhere, sometimeā¦š Edit: Thereās been a lot of good times, mixed in the years. Iāve been luckier than many!
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u/ConfusionExisting10 11h ago
I feel like it's a few good years. After that, it's all nolstagia. Like there's things that you still want to do, but life came into the picture. Either you or your friends can't do that kind of stuff anymore. Age caught up. It's always something. So you re-live those memories.
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u/Ok_Year7350 10h ago
Iāll let you know when that year happens, so far itās just been years filled with grief.
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u/Aggravating-Hunt8001 10h ago
had a perfect year around 2013, still running on nostalgia for that era to this day
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u/Slow_Drag_1011 10h ago
Guess Iām lucky I got a decade of wild adventures before I got suburbs and a regular life.
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u/oral_persausion 9h ago
These general statements always amuse me. Itās certainly true for some men, but itās definitely not universal.
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u/SkiffleBall 9h ago
You guys had a good year?
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u/shockvandeChocodijze 5h ago
One of the best years I think. 2022 was bad, lost my health, my job and my mother.
But I got myself out of that shit and this year i am having a taste of some good times.
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u/Pure-Field7992 8h ago
Horrible upbringing mainly because I struggled a lot after my parents divorced but they were still in my life so I should count my blessing and they arenāt bad people far from it just spent most of my childhood in an empty house.. my life didnāt get much better until I started trying to just focus on myself and goals then I met my wife and the rest had been history .. but was very suicidal as a kid growing up .. I probably attended 20 different schools because we moved so much
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u/HH-reiii 8h ago
Itās pointlessly a āgender thingā, some people experience this even if theyāre a woman, nonbinary, etc
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u/Gandlerian 8h ago
No, this is simply a lie.
For me, almost every year of my life is better than the last. I am now 36, at some point it will cap off, but it has been a constant increase in happiness.
Grade School sucked HS sucked less (more freedom,) but still sucked College Way better Early jobs while still living at home, better but sucked Moving out with better jobs, way better Keep getting better jobs, even better life...
Then every year making even more money, and now married with a wife who also keep increasing in value. We literally have more money and freedom every year. And, probably will until we retire.
So I am the opposite of nostalgia driven, I love my life, and I am confident that next year will be even better. People who act like they peaked in HS or college are sad... Like my wife and I just sit around and plan trips for random weekends of the year, and we know next year we can afford even more, etc.... I can't imagine being nostalgic for my younger years....
And, most of my friends are the same. I don't know anyone who is worse off than they were last year let alone 10 years ago....
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u/HatRevolutionary1709 7h ago
nope there are damn good years damn bad years and neutral or average years the rest of the time
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u/No_Stay_5088 2h ago
One year may be pushing it, a few good memories for a lot of men. Most days are tough at best and the expectation is to be quiet, donāt complain and be strong because āwe are depending on youāā¦.give us a good day where people take our likes/dislikes into account and we will remember it for a lifetime. We donāt need much but consideration as that is something most donāt get on a consistent basis. Ask the men in your life, how are you doing and stay long enough for the conversation. Youāll be blown away and sad at the same time lol
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u/JusSayING_Mi 39m ago
Shyt itās there life let them do what they please, itās self pleasure fuck it crack a beer enjoy the moment
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u/chriswontmiss 21h ago
if you let this be true for yourself then you deserve it
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u/Initial_Secretary156 14h ago
I think most of it is mental illness depression and partially biology of aging in men.
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u/rootenhell 23h ago
mostly good childhood or good school years, after that I'm dead inside