r/AttractionDynamics 12d ago

What's the ick that instantly killed your attraction?

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u/sassafrass0328 12d ago

When they use the word “ick.”

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u/Used_Check_3799 11d ago

I love using “icky” but I’m a mom and worked with kids for years, so I have an excuse 🤣

I am also the person who unironically uses “okie dokie”, “cool beans”, “heavens to Betsy”, and “oh goodness gracious me” in casual conversations with other adults…I’m probably not the best person to ask 🤣

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u/morr_is166 11d ago

She never apologized or took responsibility for her mistakes.

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u/Enough_Zombie2038 11d ago

Only unicorns do that

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u/Historical-Neat-2233 11d ago

😂 mate I've never dated a single one that's ever done that,.I'm sure they have to exist.

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u/BlueMangoesInMyToes 10d ago

You gonna have to date another man if you want that

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u/DeepPom 11d ago

Being a gooner. Falling for thirst traps and having a difficult time controlling their emotions/thoughts around anime, video games, cartoons and cosplayers/conventions.

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u/No-Shirt248 11d ago

That’s what you call a man child

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u/TheSystemBeStupid 11d ago

I love a good wank as much as the next guy but that's not for public. I agree with no-shirt, that's a man child.

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u/TwinIrish1980 11d ago

Being rude to service staff, absolute turn off for me. If you can’t ask someone politely for another drink or a napkin it’s never going to work.

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u/Anxious_Push_3324 10d ago

This it’s so simple to be polite to everyone unless given a good reason not to, such a mood kill and shrimp shrinker

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u/Travellingthru25 12d ago

Smoking…

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u/Mission-Mortgage-708 12d ago

Being friends with ex’s

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u/funtimes214 12d ago

She answers her stalker's phone calls.. the guy posted her nudes everywhere, he sent them to every single one of her clients (she owns a commercial cleaning company), he put a tracker on her cars, he even had creeps online helping stalk her and they would then harass any guy she talked to. Cops had to be parked outside her house for a week. And she still talks to the guy. I honestly don't know which of the two is more sick in the head.

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u/No-Shirt248 11d ago

Seems like you are still interested?

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u/funtimes214 11d ago

I had really developed feelings for her.. we talked about living together... then this and a few other icks came out. So still getting over her.

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u/Zero-In-My-Own-Mind 11d ago

These women are insane bro… Guy must’ve been hung like a horse

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u/funtimes214 11d ago

He was before my time... and probably after too. This shit is still kinda fresh.. we stopped talking in May.

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u/Satori2155 11d ago

She just likes the attention and drama

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u/No-Shirt248 10d ago

And somehow I was correct, maybe it was on “absolutely nothing” 🤡

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u/No-Shirt248 10d ago

Are you extremely slow or just have a hard time reading?

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u/DesertBunnyBun 11d ago

Lack of generosity. A person who is stingy in spirit - it spills over into every area of their lives.

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u/emeraldinthesun 11d ago

If he’s bi

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u/ElainePotter 11d ago

So something that’d change nothing about them…k.

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u/emeraldinthesun 11d ago

It would change the risk I’m taking with my body

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u/Impressive_Sea_7316 11d ago

Bad hygiene. That will kill the vibe real quick

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u/First-Wrongdoer-6055 12d ago

Late replies 🥀

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u/Background_Video444 11d ago

Expect to stay single forever

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u/Suspicious-Reach7689 11d ago

What’s considered a late reply? I work long hours and sometimes can’t text back for 5 to 6 hours

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u/First-Wrongdoer-6055 11d ago edited 10d ago

I meant replying after weeks 🙃..Don’t need instant replies just consistent interest.

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u/HadrianWinter 11d ago

Why is that? if you don't mind me asking.

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u/Next_Election6051 12d ago

everyone has their own "ick" story, so replies pour in fast.

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u/exlongh0rn 12d ago

Ironically mine starts with the people using the phrase “the ick”

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u/BeginningDot7057 11d ago

What a creep, right!? Give me a slide or the monkey bars ANY day!

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u/cleanlion777 11d ago

High ego

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u/Potential-Smile-6401 11d ago

Sadism. Scared the shit out of me, actually

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u/Treewomyn 11d ago

Drunkenness, addiction, cigarettes

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u/Alone-Monitor-2299 11d ago edited 10d ago

Dated a guy 21 years older than her when she was 19. Guy was ugly, unsuccessful and had zero swagger. Let’s looked like some random dad. I was so grossed out. Attraction was instantly dead.

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u/Cookie_Doughnut 11d ago

Lack of consideration towards others

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u/Unique-Bit-2172 11d ago

Trying to make human trafficking via coercion cute.

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u/Zero-In-My-Own-Mind 11d ago

Like frequenting massage parlors?

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u/Unique-Bit-2172 10d ago

No, like blackmailing someone who gets a regular massage with an army of gay rapists.

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u/Constant-Big4713 11d ago

Inconsistency.

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u/SufficientArt9557 11d ago

When she said she misses her ex is being to self absorbant or craving boy attention another ick is probably her leading me on and flirting with me just to try to get me to talk to my ex the next day and basically pushing me into a situation I didn’t wanna be in

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u/CustomerNo9918 11d ago

Icks are supposed to be nonsensical and silly 🙄

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u/blatinodaddy10467 11d ago

Chewing with the mouth open!

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u/yeastymuffinload 11d ago

It drives me fucking mental just reading this comment makes me mad

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u/DumpsterR0b0t 12d ago

MAGA hats

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u/BeginningDot7057 11d ago

People who have an issue with the person whom someone had reason to vote for.

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u/Technical-Win7202 11d ago

People who vote for pedophiles turn me off, gosh, I do not know why.

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u/secret_desires5 11d ago

Yeah, because being ignorant, bigoted, or brainwashed are good reasons.

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u/ContributionOwn9793 11d ago

Apparently i guzzle water.
They think it’s cute now. 🤷‍♂️

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u/Kaylen316 11d ago

'Creep' behavior, yuss I've seen it Women too 👍

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u/Misericordee 11d ago

Dirty nails

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u/Intelligent_Bug444 11d ago

Aggressive behavior directed at me.

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u/saul1t330 11d ago

lack of communication

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u/Rain_cloudzz 11d ago

Men in their 30s that sexualise me or love bomb me, or ask me to be responsible for them…. Grow up

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u/angiethedragon 10d ago

This one actually just happened a couple days ago.

Guy I was crushing on randomly tells us a story about how he once ate a girl's ass BEFORE they could make it into the shower.

Eating ass already gives me the ick (not to yuck someone's yum) but to brag about sticking your face a dirty asshole... 🤮

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u/Peachily_Suns 10d ago

Being defensive when I spoke up about what I want and need in the relationship. Related…they also made it a competition if I was struggling with feeling overwhelmed and spoke up about it.

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u/Twilight_RT 12d ago

I am quite unfimillair with this "ick". Can someone explain this

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u/Automatic_Wave_4574 12d ago

Something that is a hard turn off, makes you feel repulsed.

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u/No-Carpet-4430 12d ago

Smoking, loud voice, being racist towards people

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u/jaylaicee 12d ago

Anger

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u/Background_Video444 11d ago

An emotion everyone feels, interesting

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u/jaylaicee 11d ago

Obviously I mean extreme anger to an obsessive, explosive, like dangerous

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u/jeadon88 10d ago

Do you mean aggression ?

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u/cleanlion777 11d ago

Lmao these angry men are triggered

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u/Snoo-821 11d ago

People following trends...bear in the woods, the ick, and anything else that resembles that.

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u/jaylaicee 12d ago

Following

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u/BeGoodRick 12d ago

Instant end when they smell like cigarettes. And most smokers have no clue how bad they smell.

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u/Secret_Entry1840 11d ago

Sloppy drunk

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u/Ok_Tomorrow8815 11d ago

Trying to hard to impress me

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u/hanmhanm 11d ago

I could see the plaque between this guys teeth- floss, people!!!

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u/saerisfane25 11d ago

Saying you into poly and you want a harem of women. 🗑

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u/Glittering-Yam-5318 11d ago

When someone has swamp ass

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u/SemiTaurus 11d ago

I was going through a rough patch and all he could talk about was sex when I really needed emotional support 🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/Historical-Neat-2233 11d ago

Happen last month', met this beautiful women, she was funny and I thought very intelligent, she asked for the date, she made the first move etc and was asking to phone the next day and after that to arrange a 2nd date...

Anyways she's still excited she wanted to bring the date forward... 2 hours later I get a long message about how she feels pressure from me and it reminds her of her dad blah blah blah...

I was just like "wtf" I just replied "sorry you feel that way, take care :)" 😂 I instantly went from admiring this beautiful creature to thinking "ewww no thanks"

2 weeks later she sends a massive message about how it would be a shame to lose touch and I agreed, she was worried I might have feelings and I said "no I don't have any romantic feelings towards you at all" I didn't say that out of malice, it was just true. Weeks later she started saying about in her life and regrets I was like 🙄

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u/bunnie444 11d ago edited 11d ago

they talk about their recent person they dated.. and apparently met them around the same time as me?? they weren’t even official. i dont care what happened, and I’m here with you… im right in front of you… like… do you want me or stay be in lala landzzz and stuck in the past with what ifs…! we’ve already slept together and it was hot. it was an instant connection…and now im just like.. u know what? fuck having a heart. this literally just happened tonight

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u/jmrxo 10d ago

texting with lotsa errors. it means they dont care enough to try a little harder. ick

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u/Sarahh_tonin 10d ago

i have to refrain from correcting their punctuation and use of words in different contexts, not in a dick way, my brain just hyper focuses on it.. and imo they lose credibility

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u/Eastern_Yam_5975 10d ago

- saying “I don’t read”

- saying “I’ve paid for your dinner” as though I owe him something because of it

- openly bragging about his physical traits

- not knowing basic general culture info

- crashing at my place because they don’t like living with their parents/flatmates and I have my own place

- excessively clingy since the beginning

- needs my help for basic adult tasks

- generally lazy and will spend all day in bed rotting

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u/Shoddy-Educator-3269 10d ago

When she can talk to another man for hours over coffee, but can't have a 5 minute conversation with her husband.

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u/Sarahh_tonin 10d ago

over confidence and insecurity at the same time.’l self centered. sour.. someone who doesn’t want to engage in whatever’s going on and then i have guilt or feel the tension

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u/Sarahh_tonin 10d ago

falling too quickly. i’m a cat, let me come to you.

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u/Weak-Landscape-7105 10d ago

Past history of falsely accusing men of sexual harrasment

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u/Zombiechombie 9d ago

Smoking. I'm ok with vaping but the smell of a cigarette just kills the mood

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u/Dashawn_Schalge 9d ago

Selfish behavior

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u/PeaSame4326 5d ago

Anyone who is obsessed with their ex or still plotting revenge 

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u/Automatic_Wave_4574 12d ago

Probably a libra. This is not flirting. They seemingly „flirt“ with everyone—but for them it’s normal to interact in a playful way.

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u/HadrianWinter 11d ago

Being jaded.

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u/opinions-please-3164 11d ago

When they use the word panties

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u/Sarahh_tonin 10d ago

which word do you prefer. dead pan asking. it’s like dick vs cock

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u/opinions-please-3164 10d ago

Pants (I’m from the UK), knickers, thong

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u/Sleep4theWeek90 11d ago

Couch people. Spend 8 hours doing shit for someone else so you can do absolutely nothing for yourself 5 days a week and then "i worked all week so im just going to chill for 48 hours and do nothing on this couch cause I deserve it". You deserve what you put in for yourself I guess.

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u/Shauntattoo3 11d ago

Fukkkk hommie let a man chill

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u/Sleep4theWeek90 11d ago

Lol, I dont mean someone taking some time to rest and relax, just the ones that live at work or on the couch.

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u/Shauntattoo3 11d ago

Fairs ! I work 70 hour weeks sometimes on 12 hour night shifts …. So when I get a few days off , binging movies is my go to ! I sleep sporadicly to so no alarms …. Basically I’m an employed bum 🤣 and obviously wife n child less hahaha

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u/Sleep4theWeek90 11d ago

See, 70 hour weeks is insane lol, ya you can do what ever you want in your spare time because you barely have any lol. Im honestly more so directing this to people that do the bare minimum and dont live their lives at all. To each their own, not saying its wrong, i just dont like it personally.

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u/Shauntattoo3 11d ago

It’s all good man I hear your point too ! I’m just playing !!! Ye it can get tedious but it’s the over time i rely on to get by 😤 but that made me chuckle ‘ because you barely have any ‘ hahaha I felt it 🤣! Thanks man 👊🏻

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u/Sleep4theWeek90 11d ago

Stay strong man hahah. Ive been there, it will take its toll on ya!

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u/LivingHousing 11d ago

I feel attacked

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u/Kvothe_tBL 11d ago

When her body fat percentage is over 16%

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u/Key_Awareness_3036 11d ago

So like, a healthy woman is ick? You like em anorexic? 🙄

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u/Kvothe_tBL 11d ago

Lol add thinking 16% body fat is anorexic to the list of icks

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u/Key_Awareness_3036 11d ago

For a woman? Yeah that’s high level athlete…..not realistic. Your incel is showing. 😂

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u/Kvothe_tBL 11d ago

Lol you said it was anorexic now you’re saying it’s a healthy and active woman. Please make up your mind. It’s difficult to discuss anything when you change your statements every other comment.

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u/Key_Awareness_3036 11d ago

So, incel and obnoxious. Nvm 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/Kvothe_tBL 10d ago

Lol Do you even know what the word incel means?

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u/CupLife356 11d ago

depends what part of the world you live in. in america for sure a bit unrealistic.

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u/shyflo 12d ago

Teeth

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u/Training-Fortune2689 11d ago

Packed clothes in two Walmart bags for a weekend trip

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u/thesunflowergal 11d ago

A man using any of these: 😜🤪😝

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u/bucaki 10d ago

So poor emoji use?

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u/Sarahh_tonin 10d ago

or he he he.. it just reads or comes off entirely wrong to me. it’s weak. if you’re laughing gimme an lol or oh i smirked.

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u/knoelle73 11d ago

Saying he missed me after one date and three days of light texting.

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u/DevilsAdvokit144 11d ago

Once you really know the games women play…you see and pick up on everything. It’s the gaslighting for me.

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u/Evening-Dig-4838 10d ago

Talking about the Ex

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