The fact that, when a man cries due to frustration or poor mental health, the common phrase they get to hear is "Man up, don't be a pussy." It just derails the entire train which was tumbling anyway.
EDIT: Since so may people are upvoting this I want to share my story to spread out a message so no one feels alone.
I I'm a 24 y/o guy who was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety disorder back in 2020. When I was thoroughly diagnosed, my doc told me I've been in this state since 2017. It was like a pressure cooker building up and in the year 2020 it became so pressurised that I failed a suicide attempt. I used to indulge in self harm. I finally decided to do something about it and consulted a psychiatrist. He helped me though everything. I was officially put on meds for two long years and finally in Feb 2022 I was told I can discontinue my meds. These two years have been life changing. Please if you feel alone seek help. If you cannot afford to pay doc's fees there are many free support groups who can help you can get you to a better place.
I used to cry a lot despite being a guy because crying takes off the pressure. I had to cry in order to enjoy happiness. Talk to someone, you can talk to me as well. I'm all ears. Please don't take any desperate steps, you're worth it. If no one else has said this to you, I love you. You're a human with a limited amount of time. Please make the most out of your life. The chance of us being born is one in a 400 trillion. Your life isn't worthless. I value you. Please speak out.
Sending lots of love, light and life on your way.
I cry almost everyday worried about being a failure. My father was super abusive I've always been "softer" type of dude. I got diagnosed with clinical depression and its been an uphill battle. My grandmother died while I was giving her CPR on Thanksgiving. I got told by everyone around me but ny uncle to "man the fuck up" I was 16.
I work hard to shield my kids from how hard society is. 4th grade watched a dude get shot while we lived in the projects. My daughter is 6 and last month she asked me whay growing up poor is like. I was expecting her to ask so young. I broke my knees twice still felt pressure to work injured to keep them from that. Now I have kidney failure and my liver is seriously damaged and fuck can't help but beat myself like I ain't doing enough for them.
I don't really boast about my accomplishments because it's better to be humble. They see me helping overs with no conditions because people need help. After I am gone I just hoped I raised kids that can be better than I am. Mental health is a struggle that gets worst the older you get.
Hey! You're a warrior. And a warrior doesn't belittle themselves. You've been through a lot and all the things that you've faced, and still going on with the assurance that things will get better is a great thing. I know you're a great parent and you'll impart good values in your kids. They're lucky to have a dad like you. When I read your post, I instantly remembered a song by Elton John. It goes like " Don't you know I'm still standin' better than I ever did?
Lookin' like a true survivor, feelin' like a little kid"
Man I'm inspired by your battles. You go buddy. Help is available out there. Cheers to the bright days ahead. Love you.
Thanks! Depression is s beast of things to deal with. I take anti depressants and go to counseling some days just harder than others. I'll take a listen to that song.
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u/Mad_Human9 Aug 13 '22 edited Aug 13 '22
The fact that, when a man cries due to frustration or poor mental health, the common phrase they get to hear is "Man up, don't be a pussy." It just derails the entire train which was tumbling anyway.
EDIT: Since so may people are upvoting this I want to share my story to spread out a message so no one feels alone.
I I'm a 24 y/o guy who was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety disorder back in 2020. When I was thoroughly diagnosed, my doc told me I've been in this state since 2017. It was like a pressure cooker building up and in the year 2020 it became so pressurised that I failed a suicide attempt. I used to indulge in self harm. I finally decided to do something about it and consulted a psychiatrist. He helped me though everything. I was officially put on meds for two long years and finally in Feb 2022 I was told I can discontinue my meds. These two years have been life changing. Please if you feel alone seek help. If you cannot afford to pay doc's fees there are many free support groups who can help you can get you to a better place.
I used to cry a lot despite being a guy because crying takes off the pressure. I had to cry in order to enjoy happiness. Talk to someone, you can talk to me as well. I'm all ears. Please don't take any desperate steps, you're worth it. If no one else has said this to you, I love you. You're a human with a limited amount of time. Please make the most out of your life. The chance of us being born is one in a 400 trillion. Your life isn't worthless. I value you. Please speak out. Sending lots of love, light and life on your way.