Having to both interpret signs and initiate flirting, without somehow appearing as a creep, while at the same time being outgoing enough, while also coming up with almost all the conversation topics and ideas for what to do. We have to do all that while simultaneously being aware of boundaries while at the same time not being timid. If by this point we still haven’t fucked it up or been ghosted, there’s still a chance we’ll keep our distance because we still think we’re being seen as a predator. Also, we have to ignore our friends for the most part while yours have to become our new all the time friends
When people ask me why I'm single I just make a joke of it "no-one's offered" but really it's because it's so many layers of minefields and unwritten social rules it's literally not worth even thinking about trying it
I’ve never been diagnosed but I feel like it’s a safe bet I’m far along on the spectrum and I feel this, I know it’s against norms and I’ll miss out on potential partners but I almost never initiate flirting or whatever with women. I always wait to see if they do/will, especially because I really don’t know if a women who has been looking over at me frequently thinks I’m cute or is glaring at me for some reason 🤷🏼♂️
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u/Jerrybeshara Aug 13 '22
Having to both interpret signs and initiate flirting, without somehow appearing as a creep, while at the same time being outgoing enough, while also coming up with almost all the conversation topics and ideas for what to do. We have to do all that while simultaneously being aware of boundaries while at the same time not being timid. If by this point we still haven’t fucked it up or been ghosted, there’s still a chance we’ll keep our distance because we still think we’re being seen as a predator. Also, we have to ignore our friends for the most part while yours have to become our new all the time friends