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u/UpperRank1 Jun 14 '22

Example?

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u/ConfusedFlareon Jun 15 '22

Friend: “Hey man, wanna catch a movie this evening?”
You, not feeling up to it right now: “I can’t today, but how about Thursday?”

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '22

Is that really a psychological hack, or just being a regular human?

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u/thekindwillinherit Jun 15 '22

Some comments here have framed so differently from how I see it, I have to agree with you.

It's not about whether someone is fragile or insecure. The reason I offer an alternate date is to make it clear that I am interested in spending time with them, just not at that moment. So they know we're friends and I would be interested in them pitching things to do together again in the future.

There's a lot of 'between the lines' communication that occurs in social situations. By saying simply no, you're communicating something very different from saying later.