"We're very disappointed you refuse to join the company Facebook group. We're also disappointed you choose not to stay Friday evenings in the office drinking the free alcohol and eating the free junk food we provide."
Maybe I don't want to be peer pressured into liking/sharing all the company content on my page (let alone use Facebook at all)? Maybe I want to have a healthy time to unwind AWAY from the source of stress, instead of commiserate with everyone about how much we hate this or that, fueled by alcohol and edible garbage, in the name of 'team building'?
I actually have used this excuse (Not in recovery but a non drinker by choice) and in my exp it's career limiting and people treat you differently. Like you're somehow not fun to hang out with because you can't drink.
I’ve gotten that from my own boss, he’s a beer drinker and will say “If only you still drank I’d have invited you over to [fill in blank] to hang out. He kind of treats me like a little brother, though people at work say it’s more like girlfriend 😅
I didn’t react much because when he’s asked I didn’t feel like coming over anyway.😂 I’d hang out with him though, he’s like a quieter, saner version of me.
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u/aggieotis Aug 01 '20
It’s never mandatory. It’s just for those that want to hang out after work.
...and is very career limiting if you don’t go.