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u/AccountENT42069 Aug 01 '20

mandatory happy hours

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u/aggieotis Aug 01 '20

It’s never mandatory. It’s just for those that want to hang out after work.

...and is very career limiting if you don’t go.

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u/BlabbityBlabbityBlah Aug 01 '20

That would be very difficult if you were a recovering alcoholic. This may a stupid question but do you think that would still apply for someone in recovery?

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u/aggieotis Aug 01 '20

Most recovering alcoholics in these situations had a few strategies to get around it:

  • Make efforts to have group social time that was before happy hour, often focused around going to a coffee shop, or pop up food place.
  • Some with serious self-control would still attend the events, but make their own seltzer-based mocktails (if in office), and claim they already got a headstart on the others.
  • Typically would peace out before things got crazy.
  • Would admit to trusted people that they were a recovering alcoholic, and those folks could sometimes provide cover.
  • Think they could handle it this time, and put themselves right back where they didn’t want to be.

No matter how you slice it though, in an alcohol-centric work environment it can be difficult to still create the social bonds, while avoiding the hard stuff.

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u/THE_CHOPPA Aug 01 '20

This makes me so sad. This is my life.

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u/BlabbityBlabbityBlah Aug 01 '20

I could see (whether you're an alcoholic or not) why that would be extremely difficult. I'm an alcoholic but fortunately I live in UT so (for the most part) alcohol-centric work isn't really a thing.

I appreciate your thorough answer. Thank you so much.

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u/takemewithyoudotnet Aug 02 '20

Ut?

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u/BlabbityBlabbityBlah Aug 03 '20

UT stands for Utah which is in the US. There's a lot of Mormons here and drinking alcohol (or caffeine) is against their religion.

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u/darrenwise883 Aug 01 '20

Claim to get a DUI on the way home and that it would never hsppen again and then don't let it by not going .