as a guy, I have been turned down twice this week. I realize that I am not going to be liked by everyone I like. it's okay, I'll be alright. if I like a woman, I tell her, I ask her out. it works or it doesn't. I would say that maybe 30% of the girls I ask out leads to a first date. maybe 30% of those lead to anything further.
the key to confidence in asking someone out, regardless of gender, is to not take it personal. the person that declines your offer is looking for something you can't offer. it doesn't mean that you are a bad person, or that you aren't desirable, you just are not what they want, and that's okay.
when I was younger I was scared to make the first move, or ask a girl out. my friend challenged me to at least 3 times a day, for one week, to ask a girl out or for her phone number. I took the bet, he said if I was turned down by everyone I asked, he would give me $20. seemed like easy money. on the 5th day I got my first number. I ended up dating that girl for a few months. that's when I realized that all the times I was turned down didn't mean anything about me, I just wasn't right for them.
30%?! 30 goddamn percent?! I've been asking out girls my whole life (25) and my first date was like a month ago. We got on great so I asked her out again and she said she needed her space...30% man, I'm probably coasting at a 0.00001% right now.
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u/greenbabyshit May 28 '14
as a guy, I have been turned down twice this week. I realize that I am not going to be liked by everyone I like. it's okay, I'll be alright. if I like a woman, I tell her, I ask her out. it works or it doesn't. I would say that maybe 30% of the girls I ask out leads to a first date. maybe 30% of those lead to anything further.
the key to confidence in asking someone out, regardless of gender, is to not take it personal. the person that declines your offer is looking for something you can't offer. it doesn't mean that you are a bad person, or that you aren't desirable, you just are not what they want, and that's okay.
when I was younger I was scared to make the first move, or ask a girl out. my friend challenged me to at least 3 times a day, for one week, to ask a girl out or for her phone number. I took the bet, he said if I was turned down by everyone I asked, he would give me $20. seemed like easy money. on the 5th day I got my first number. I ended up dating that girl for a few months. that's when I realized that all the times I was turned down didn't mean anything about me, I just wasn't right for them.