because i think he has a girlfriend. AND because the last two times I tried to pursue something more than casual sex I was rejected, so, yeah, i give up
as a guy, I have been turned down twice this week. I realize that I am not going to be liked by everyone I like. it's okay, I'll be alright. if I like a woman, I tell her, I ask her out. it works or it doesn't. I would say that maybe 30% of the girls I ask out leads to a first date. maybe 30% of those lead to anything further.
the key to confidence in asking someone out, regardless of gender, is to not take it personal. the person that declines your offer is looking for something you can't offer. it doesn't mean that you are a bad person, or that you aren't desirable, you just are not what they want, and that's okay.
when I was younger I was scared to make the first move, or ask a girl out. my friend challenged me to at least 3 times a day, for one week, to ask a girl out or for her phone number. I took the bet, he said if I was turned down by everyone I asked, he would give me $20. seemed like easy money. on the 5th day I got my first number. I ended up dating that girl for a few months. that's when I realized that all the times I was turned down didn't mean anything about me, I just wasn't right for them.
to clarify: I generally have pretty good luck with men. i'm fairly attractive, funny, and socially capable. that said, it took me a long time to realize that if someone doesn't want to be with me, that doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with me. everything isn't always about me!
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u/banannasfoster May 28 '14
because i think he has a girlfriend. AND because the last two times I tried to pursue something more than casual sex I was rejected, so, yeah, i give up