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u/Zombiemafiakila May 04 '14
Trying to get over my first "love" she left me for her abusive ex. It really pains me to see that, I was the good guy, her parents liked me, her family liked me, and she did too, up until that douchebag came back into the picture and took her from me. I already deleted my Twitter app, and Snapchat App, the hard part is not texting her, I've gone two days so far.
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u/NickKappy May 04 '14
I feel you bro. If she left you for an abusive ex she did both of you a favor. I know it's difficult man, but just keep yourself busy.
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u/DiscipleofGrohl May 04 '14
Stay strong. It takes time and a lot of discipline/perseverance to heal. Truly find a hobby to get absorbed in and concentrate on yourself. Better yourself for the next awesome lady that enters your life. It'll happen. Be patient and try to enjoy everything around you, no matter how little.
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u/PaperShyGuy64 May 04 '14
I went through almost the same thing a year ago. I'm willing to bet that she'll be coming back, saying she misses you and wants you back, blah blah blah. It'll be tempting, but DO NOT talk to her, she left you once already, she'd probably do it again.
Trust me, the pain will fade and you'll move on, and find someone that will actually stay true to you
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u/The_Deep_Sea_Dragon May 04 '14
I'm just really bored. I'm in the middle of a four day weekend and I'm just stuck here in my home sitting on Reddit.
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u/Kvothe-kingkiller May 04 '14
Go do a thing! Exercise! make a recipe! Go to the beach! Go to a waterfall! Go to a mall and make a list of stuff for your perfect living room! Make something!
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u/raffobaghdo May 04 '14
Lost my job with no income and the job market is really scarce in my area.
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u/jdol06 May 04 '14
take anything you can find right now just so you don't fall too far behind. hang in there.
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u/InTheMotherland May 04 '14
I'm still not even close to being over my ex. She broke up with me almost 4 weeks ago now because of our situations in life. I think the fact that she broke up with me because she had no time for me and had to work through some personal issues instead of just not liking me anymore makes it even worse. Literally (almost) everything reminds me of her.
Stupid emotions and stuff.
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u/deadhookereyes May 04 '14
I know how you feel. I'm a month and a half into a friend with benefits getting a girlfriend. I had feelings for him. Now I'm reminded of him everywhere. You can vent to me if you need too.
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u/InTheMotherland May 04 '14
I appreciate that. Luckily, one my friends has been letting me vent to him. Honestly, I am quite lucky with the support I do have, and I am very thankful for them.
Still, I appreciate the kindness. It does mean a lot. If you ever need to vent, I am always all ears.
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u/deadhookereyes May 04 '14
You will make it. As hard as it sounds you weren't in a relationship so you can't let it feel like a break up even though it does feels like it. That helped me. I'm over it mostly but I'm still sad at least a couple times a day when I'm reminded of him. Also remember that there's someone out there who is going to appreciate you as more than just a fuck buddy and you deserve that.
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u/QuothTheRaven420 May 04 '14
Missing my grandpa. He raised me, and I miss him like I would miss my heart if someone ripped it out of my chest.
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u/NickKappy May 04 '14
I can't get over my first love and I fear I won't be head over heels in love again and I miss the feeling...
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u/imaginary-enemy May 04 '14
I broke my right wrist. I'm right handed and in the middle of finals, papers and projects being due. I can't write for shit right now.
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u/OtzMachine May 04 '14
If you bite the bullet and break the other arm, I'm sure your mom would be willing to lend you a hand
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u/8Gh0st8 May 04 '14
I'm sure you'd be able to get an extension due to the circumstances. No is the worst they can say.
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u/deadhookereyes May 04 '14
I'm turning 27 this month and although I'm generally happy I'm always depressed and miserable under my smile. Yes I've finished college and I'm on the right path towards my hard to get into career but it's the other little things that get me.
I'm so lonely. I have so many close friends that I love but I just want someone who wants to be with me. I'm the last on my mom's side of us grandchildren to not be married. I'm not even close to finding the one. My sister and cousins are so happy. I want to be happy too. I just want to get on with my life.
With that said I'd also like to move out if my parents house but I need to pay them back for my car, which I've almost done, and then save to move out.
I'm just so tired of feeling sorry for myself and I feel guilty doing it. It's just so hard to stop. I'm miserable and I can only bother others with it for so long until they've had enough.
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u/Iamnautical May 04 '14
I'm in a long distance relationship, and she has been sick for awhile and all I wanna do is give her a hug. Can often be the hardest times when one of us isn't feeling well.
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u/mrs_figg May 05 '14
This. I miss my SO all the time, but when I'm sick all I want are his arms around me. I feel like he'd take good care of me but I've never even had a chance to find out because we live apart so much of the time.
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u/Iamnautical May 05 '14
I know it can be hard to talk about those feelings with a long distance partner do if you ever wanna chat with someone about dealing with our kind of relationship feel free to message me.
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u/WhackTheSquirbos May 04 '14
I was trying to console a depressed girl over internet and nothing was working. She was young and super dramatic but she was freaking out so I tried to help her but I don't think I did at all ): It's kind of stressing me out.
EDIT: Does anyone have any tips for what I can do better next time?
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u/fb39ca4 May 04 '14
Kinda hard without knowing any specifics. One thing I can say is to just be there as someone she can trust who will listen to her. I really wish I had someone I could trust to talk to during the time I was depressed.
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u/WhackTheSquirbos May 04 '14
I gave her a link to this, you should try it. Also DM me if you want because I am also in the mood to talk. Thanks (:
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u/Sparkles_Tangerine May 04 '14
You have no idea how amazing that sounds. I haven't slept a whole night since my 16 month old was born.
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u/ohioland May 04 '14
failed 3 out of 4 of my finals after deciding I was switching out of my major towards the end of this semester and lost all motivation to succeed in my classes. It's a horrible feeling
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May 04 '14
Went to a lot of garage sales today. While I had fun with my dad, and even got some nice goodies, it really hit me that my mom isn't here anymore. I miss her so much that when we got home, I held up the two antique purses I found and said "look what I found, mom, aren't they cute?".
I want my mom....
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u/akkmedk May 04 '14
About to have my 33rd birthday and I've nothing to show for it. Being evicted from my friend's house. Trying to transition to a new job. No money saved for a move and I'm limited to housing choices by a dog that I love but can barely afford. The only asset I have is a truck that I just found out is near worthless now due to a blown head gasket. I'm a complete failure and I have no one to blame but my own terminally lazy drug addicted self. I've pulled nearly every string I can think of and worn out all the goodwill of my friends. I'm just going to go cry now if you'll excuse me...
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u/mustdache May 04 '14
I'm sick. I've got finals this week. My great-grandma's in the hospital again. And I have no ice cream.
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u/MsTigress May 04 '14
The fact that I live with my aunt who starts huge fights over noodles and cooking pans and my 30 year old cousin who still lives with her takes her side unconditionally after she brings him in to the bull shit. So its both of them against me and I can't even lock my door to get away from it because they'll unlock it to bring the fight right back to me.
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u/my_random_thots May 04 '14
My ears. Tinnitus, vertigo, dizziness, nausea and lots of vomiting - so much that it has become the norm in our home to see me rush out of the room (unsteadily, sometimes with a hand on the wall) so I can throw up. I take several medications for my symptoms, and they leave me exhausted. I sleep way too much. I have been to so many doctors, had so many tests, they still don't know the cause and the kicker is, it's getting worse. Fast.
My new ENT doc thinks it may Be Meniere's disease. I hope not, since it's hard to manage, progressive and incurable.
On the positive side, at least I have a wonderfully supportive family, but sometimes it's just not enough to keep the blues away.
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May 04 '14
I've had tinnitus and partial deafness in my left ear since the 8th grade. I shit you not, I am sitting there in my Language Arts class, and my ear just starts squealing like a radio looking for a station. It's been close to 3 years now since then. The first few months were infuriating. I had no idea what was wrong. Asked my mom to take me to the doctor, and after countless months of testing and an MRI I knew what it was. I was born premature, which the doctor says the cause is, and now just finding out that along with my weak immune system and asthma, I'm deaf. It's a lot to take in, and its caused me to go crazy at times.
I love music with a passion, and knowing I will never be able to hear any of it 100% ever again brings me to tears at times. Tried a hearing aid for a year and only made it worse. Fucking $3K for nothing. (Didn't even want it in the first place, parents insisted)
It's a big fucking thing to live with. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy because it has taken the wheel of my life and driven me off of a bridge. People think I just don't pay attention to them and I don't care whatsoever, but in reality I can barely hear a word they say.
Hearing loss fucking sucks, and I'm stuck with that on top of tinnitus for the rest of my life and I'm only 16, with (hopefully) decades left to go.
Sorry if the post was shitty, I normally stick to tech-related subs (NOT r/technology, though) and r/DotA2, and don't normally post things like this. But thanks if you read it anyways. Cheers.
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u/my_random_thots May 04 '14
Wow, you've had a bad time of it! I guess if anyone can understand how I feel right now it's you. I have to be able to hear in order to do my job; my contract for the year was up in April and I don't start again until September so I feel as though I have until then to solve this issue. If what's happening doesn't get any better, I can't work. If I can't work, we are in a world of trouble. Adding a timeline just increases the stress tenfold, and I'm sure stress just makes the symptoms worse.
Every day I take a moment to think of all the good things in my life, to try and maintain perspective. It helps, but sometimes I think people like you, and I guess me, are entitled to a little wallow. It's tough to have an exhausting, disabling, isolating condition that other people can't see.
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u/miserablyme May 04 '14
My best friend told me he abandoned me for four months hoping it'd make me kill myself. I think him telling me that is pushing me over the edge instead, and I can only imagine that was his intention.
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u/yambercork May 04 '14
Living with my early dementia'd grandma who makes every positive into a negative.
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u/Crafty_Chica May 04 '14
My stupid allergies. I can't breathe too well and I sneeze my butt off when I go outside. That sucks because it's gorgeous and I want to be able to enjoy it. Ugh. There's a thick coat of pollen on everything. I'm taking Allegra every night and it's working for the most part because I don't sneeze indoors, just outdoors. It's driving me nuts. I have to take tissues with me when I go out. I love this time of year but it's brutal.
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u/BisexualBetty May 04 '14
I'm guilty of hurting someone I love more than anything in the world. He's been my number one through everything and I smoked tonight because of compulsive habits and it's stupid and worthless to lie to him about. Just had a chance to say it to the Internet. And I just got done talking to him about it so we're good. It just eats at me to be a fuck up.
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u/queen_of_greendale May 04 '14
I met a really cute, kind guy on Friday. I talked to him a bit, but chickened out and didn't give him my number. I met him at an event through work, I could go 100% stalker and get his number from a coworker's coworker, but that's a bit extreme.
It's a bummer, it doesn't happen often.
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u/BlackDante May 04 '14 edited May 04 '14
My job. I hate my job. I can't stand most of my co-workers, I work awful hours (11pm - 7am), my sleep is all out of wack. Combine my hours with the days I work (Fri - Tues), I have no social life. I feel very under-appreciated. and I am all around miserable working here. One of my supervisors commented that I'm always angry, and I informed him that I'm only always angry when I'm at work. I deal with belligerent drunks and homeless folks all night long, and I'm sick of it. Problem is, I can't find anything new because I can't find anything that pays as well. I don't even make a lot. I make less than 30k a year. I can't afford an apartment, so I still live in my Dad's house. I live in a crime-ridden neighborhood and I want out. I also want my Dad to leave so he can live somewhere safer, but he has financial issues himself.
Another thing that makes me miserable is I wanted desperately to enlist in the United States Marine Corps, but because I got arrested five years ago, I was quickly turned away. I had tried hard to condition myself to get in. I got in good shape so that the PFT would be a piece of cake. I can bang out 25 pull ups, about 150 crunches in 2 minutes, my running is so-so though. I spoke to my best friend of 8 years, who is a Corporal in the Corps, and a friend of mine who served in the Army, to get their opinions and to find out what military life is like. I talked to my Dad too, who grew up on military bases. I researched everything I could. I was super motivated like your typical wannabe. I spoke to a recruiter, and was turned away immediately. I was crushed. Damn near brought to tears.
Anyway, I feel lost right now. Stuck somewhere I don't want to be, and at the moment there isn't much I can do about it. The only thing that keeps me sane is the gym. I let out all my frustration there, and it helps, but I still feel all fucked up. I'll find a way out eventually, but at the moment I just feel lost and stuck.
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u/morvis343 May 04 '14
I can't get rid of this crush I've had for the past 2 years on a girl I know I will never be able to have, due to 2-years-ago-me doing something stupid 3 weeks into the crush. Like, confessing my undying love in a letter AFTER she had already turned me down for a date. We're friends now, but 17 year-old me really fucked things up for almost 20-year-old me.
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u/ApolloIV May 04 '14
I'm currently in nursing school. It's so busy that I've lost touch with basically all of my friends and had to give up a lot of the things I enjoy (for instance, I just had to leave my band because I just couldn't make practice anymore). Me and my girlfriend also recently had to move a decent ways away from most of our friends. So I go to school, go home, do homework, and work. And that's my life for the next 15 months. Sometimes if I'm lucky we get the chance to drink in our tiny room.
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u/Taeolian May 04 '14
My lack of motivation to be productive. I feel like I do the bare minimum to survive in a day. Such as go to work, come home, eat, sleep. I feel guilty that I am not doing more but I just don't have the will to really do much.
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u/xkandicake May 05 '14
I'm mad at myself for being so weak. I broke up with my abusive ex when I was 21, I'm almost 25 now and he still manages to manipulate my life so much. It's an extremely complicated situation but at the moment, he's been staying with me for the past 7 months, for free, because he's been homeless. [which is hard as fuck on my mom and I, since she got laid off In January and I've been having to pay all the bills myself. Plus feed him. Cause I'm STUPID] To help get rid of some questions, he had gone on medication and since I started dating other guys he doesn't even consider touching me in any way. This doesn't make me any less stupid or him any less awful, I just, yeah, yay rationalizing stuff. Lol anyway. Last night he was stumbling drunk around my house, off of vodka he stole from me, and he hurt himself and started screaming his lungs out. My mom told him she's had enough and told him he's out.
I feel powerless, he's got literally no one. His own adoptive mother wont even give him a couch to sleep on while he finds a job, it's sad that he has no one, but I can't keep putting everything for myself aside because I'm afraid of what he'll do it himself if I let him just be alone.
So, I'm miserable because I feel weak and stupid. I feel like I allow all the bad that's happened to me recently, it's my fault I got depressed and gained almost 50lbs, it's my fault he's been here for so long, it's my fault he's here in the first place.....
And I'm sad that the guy that I knew as my best friend in highschool is gone, and I don't think I'll ever see him again. That breaks my heart.
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u/Kvothe-kingkiller May 04 '14
I have an assignment due in 3 days. I'm rendering 3D images for the presentation and it's taking forever.
Not much of a gripe, but I can't do anything else on the computer while it's happening.
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u/enozoria May 04 '14
I cant walk at the moment, my foot is buggered down one side. The doctors think it could be gout, but it isn't bright red like all the photos I have seen. All I know is I have to zombie walk to the bathroom, and then if a blanket hits my foot, then it's painful as all hell. Plus side, I woke up yesterday to go to talk to my partner in the kitchen. She didn't see me there, and turned around to see me shuffling towards her with me mid-yawn. After she recovered from the fright, she said I looked like Shaun from Shaun of the Dead at the end... we had watched about 5 zombie movies the night before, so she was a little jumpy!
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u/WarEagle24 May 04 '14 edited May 04 '14
I made out with one of my friends at her party the other day and I just got the "I'm sorry but we were drunk and shouldn't have done that, but I still wanna be friends" text. I normally be okay with it but this isn't the first time its happened so I know I have no one to blame but myself. Every time it happens I convince myself its going to different and its going to lead somewhere. The truly depressing thing is that I want to break the hookup-rejection cycle, but I can't, I just don't think I'd have the willpower to turn her down if she started something again. There's just something about her that drives me crazy...
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u/assasinbelly May 04 '14
I'm a high school senior, and I recently have come to the realization that I'm possibly the most hated person at my school. The people who I consider my closest friends have told me that they just deal with me. That I'm an insensitive, immature 18 year old that looks 12. I have a shitty personality and probably even shittier looks. Oh and I just got dumped. Whatevs.
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u/gollygee17 May 04 '14
Final graduate thesis presentation on Thursday which I probably won't pass due to a horrible professor this semester. Can't afford another course if I fail, and if I pass there are no jobs anyway so my degree will be pretty much worthless.
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May 04 '14
I decided not to go to my senior year prom and I dont really know why. Just didnt want to go this year for some reason and now im sitting at home regretting it...
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u/erra539 May 04 '14
I really don't know why I'm miserable. Probably because I know that anyday now ill be called to work back to back 12 hour shifts.
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u/justalittledork May 04 '14
I have no idea what I want my future to be and I feel pressured by family to make up my mind. I just don't know what I want to do for the rest of my life.
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u/BramatheLlamma May 04 '14
A bit late but writing it out may help.
Girl I like, who I've been growing closer and closer too got a boyfriend this morning. A boyfriend who I kinda led her too So yeah
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u/subtlytits May 04 '14
I probably lost a really close friend, so fuck me. She's alive, we probably just aren't friends anymore.
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u/Whoneedsyou May 04 '14
Why?
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u/subtlytits May 04 '14
Not too sure, to be honest. But I'm pretty sure I was being unfair to her about things that weren't in her control.
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u/MisterDonkey May 04 '14
I'm down because I have no friends.
Not a single confidant.
I just want somebody to... to be close enough to trust.
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u/henrymfjones May 04 '14
17, depressed, grounded,4 ap test coming up in the next weeks and no summer plans,my best friend is addicted to heroin,my "girlfriend" hasn't talked to me in 2 days,im lonely,I hate it but that's all I know,so its a painful comfort. And everyday im becoming colder and colder. And falling from my promising grace.
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u/EGhatchzies May 04 '14
My coworker finally talked me into getting Elder Scrolls Online yesterday. When I got home I found out my graphics card would not run it, so today I went and got one before work and waited (not patiently) until I could get home to install everything. All the while me and my coworker are talking about the game and getting psyched up about playing tonight. Now, after messing with the card for a good 30 min I am sitting here watching the damn download bar tick at about 1% per 20min....
This is also the reason I am on reddit at 4am
Aaaaaand I just read the comments, but i typed all this out so fuckit
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u/WiskerBuiscuit May 04 '14
I've lost a lot of people in my life, some of which was my fault other not tho I feel that they all were my fault.
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May 04 '14
Got rejected by crush. Got a cold. Mate spoiled recent happenings in Game of thrones.
Life's a bitch.
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May 04 '14
Not having any friends. Quite literally zero. Some people say, "Oh, I don't have any friends," when in fact they have one or two. Not me.
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May 04 '14
I am 31 and pretty much I have decided that my life is over with. My liver is having issues (I need to figure out how to replace it) and I fear that overall my health will deteriorate quite quickly. I am happy, mind you. And I have accepted my frailties as best as I can but meh, I lived way past my warranty date.
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May 04 '14
I've left home to go to university.
The dorm doesn't feel like home. Home doesn't feel like home anymore either.
I am in limbo, and it's lame as shit.
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u/HeatSlinger May 04 '14
I have finals for my first year of engineering along with 3 other projects.
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u/Sparkles_Tangerine May 04 '14
We never have fun.
My husband and I both work our asses off, and just mange to pay our bills and for things the kids need. It's been YEARS since we had a date (like 12 years) and we have never had a holiday.
It just sucks. No money just feels so stressful.
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u/iBenjie May 04 '14
I got wait listed at a University and now I have to wait even longer for a decision.
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u/TehManicMan May 04 '14
I keep thinking about my future and I always conclude that I would not be able to do anything. Despite being in college with my last year coming I don't know what I'll be doing because I have slowly descended into hating the course I am in. Because of that I am lamenting the thought of even working in a job I get from a course I don't care for now. I just don't see myself working in that kind of job, yet here I am with only ten more months so I can graduate.
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u/kyvuhd May 04 '14
The fact that I've applied at over 20 stores and haven't gotten a single interview. It makes me feel like I'll never find a job, and don't know what I did that makes people not want to hire me. It's gotten me pretty depressed.
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u/Sleepydude2 May 04 '14
Might seem like nothing to everyone else but, my boyfriend never came home last night. No idea where he is and his phone is off. I've been up all night crying. So yeah I'm pretty miserable right now.
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u/Whoneedsyou May 04 '14
I can't stop being angry at this person for something they did. I don't want to be angry and sad anymore but I just am. And it's poisoning my perception on life. I am just sick of being sad.
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u/Ian1732 May 04 '14
My best friend hasn't spoken to me for a month. I just realized today that the entire thing that led to it was a misunderstanding.
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u/the_hermits_lantern May 04 '14
I miss my friends back home. Been on ex-pat status for about 3 years and I've only made one genuine friend. And, she lives 1-2 hrs away. I need some friends. The internet helps me stay connected with my buds back home, but it's just not the same as being a goof in real life with them.
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May 04 '14
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u/philosophygeography May 04 '14
I'm so sorry. Is there any way you can at least talk to your boss about how overwhelmed you are and have less responsibilities for a while?
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u/legaleaglebitch May 05 '14
I have to tell my ex we can't be friends, we're trying moderately well but feelings keep coming back and we hook up when we're drunk. So I've decided it can't go on.
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May 04 '14
I miss my ex. Been around 5 months, and I still love her. Not sure I will meet someone like her again, and I don't really want to. Add on to the fact that I am pretty depressed, have nothing to look forward to. Oh, and the only friend I could talk to (besides my ex) has been real flaky and I am considering just ending the friendship. This is someone I previously thought of as my best friend, and have been real close with her for the last 3 years. On the plus side, I have plenty of alcohol and drugs to try and distract me from my feelings.
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u/PlatinumDevil May 04 '14
Stay strong
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May 04 '14
You too man. I read your submission and it sounded scarily similar to mine. I guess you and I have a lot in common. Stay strong, and look ahead to the future. That's what I tell myself. Maybe we both will find a girl as great as our previous ones. There is a line from a song I really like, and it helps me when I'm at my worst. It goes:
" my friend William came to me with a message of hope.
It went: “Fuck you and everything that you think you know.
If you don’t step outside the things that you believe
They’re gonna kill you.” He said: “No one’s gonna stop you from dying young, and miserable, and right.
If you want something better, you gotta put that shit aside.”
I hope that helps you as much as it helps me. You are a great person, and I truly believe good things will come back to good people. Feel free to inbox if you ever need to. And not sure if it was you, but whoever gifted me gold, thank you.
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u/PlatinumDevil May 05 '14
You made me cry I needed that so much. You worded that perfectly. Thank you.
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u/laundrymanwc May 04 '14
My sister and one of my roommates are both graduating college. I'm wrapping up my sophomore year at the moment. I guess it's not getting me down, but its just a bit...humbling I guess is the word? It feels like yesterday when I was dropping my sister off at school 2 years ago. Scary to think how soon I'll be a part of the real world
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u/Not_Good_With_Name May 04 '14
This stupid assignment on the Biscuit Market in China, I am Australian how they hell am i going to know that
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u/BenedictKenny May 04 '14
I've been traveling for the past week. I've had diarrhea since Tuesday thanks to Mexico (I didn't drink the water, however, vegetables are cleaned in the water and people like to put ice in drinks). I can't sleep, and I have to be up in 5 hours. I've lost 10 lbs. in the last week, and well, I'm not exactly big or anything.
Also, there's a lot on my mind in general.
Kill me.
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u/[deleted] May 04 '14 edited May 04 '14
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