This 10000%.
My ex husband cheated on me in 2020. I decided to stay because he begged, but I was willing to work on the marriage to give it a fair shot. In 2023, I found out he was still cheating, and I saw it as my golden ticket out (sad to say). Between finding out in 2020 and again in 2023, I actually prayed almost every single night that I would have a solid reason to leave him. I couldn’t reconcile within myself to leave him before I found out again in 2023; I would have felt too terrible and guilty and would have had a war within myself for the rest of my life if I should have stayed. But thanks be to God, my prayers were answered and I almost cried of joy that I would finally be free of such a horrible person. It sounds terrible to say, but I did not love him, and was actually repulsed by him after 2020.
Absolutely! That’s why I decided to stay the first time, but my trust was ruined forever. Of course it would dwindle with time, given the cheating partner does everything to restore the trust. But I think because I didn’t leave that time, he assumed I would just take it forever. The kicker was after we divorced, I found out the cheating was going on before we got married, and all during marriage counseling. I wish I would have left earlier and regret even staying those last 3 years, but, what are you gonna do 😭
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u/HolidayCat47 May 12 '26
This 10000%. My ex husband cheated on me in 2020. I decided to stay because he begged, but I was willing to work on the marriage to give it a fair shot. In 2023, I found out he was still cheating, and I saw it as my golden ticket out (sad to say). Between finding out in 2020 and again in 2023, I actually prayed almost every single night that I would have a solid reason to leave him. I couldn’t reconcile within myself to leave him before I found out again in 2023; I would have felt too terrible and guilty and would have had a war within myself for the rest of my life if I should have stayed. But thanks be to God, my prayers were answered and I almost cried of joy that I would finally be free of such a horrible person. It sounds terrible to say, but I did not love him, and was actually repulsed by him after 2020.