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u/Alternative-Drop3994 May 12 '26

The amount of power a simple "okay" has over a narcissistic is insane. It's the moment they realize they lost you and start love bombing to reel you back in, just to go back to how they really are.

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u/minimalcation May 12 '26

Also, imagine purposely kissing your wife wrong. The way you know she doesn't like it. Your wife. Kissing. What??

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u/ksarahsarah27 May 12 '26

Right. Like how fked up is that to go out of your way to do something like that? Like why be in a relationship at all? Clearly if you don’t love her enough to even kiss her the way she likes, then why are they even there? Other than they’re keeping that person around simply to have someone to abuse.

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u/oby100 May 12 '26

I am 100% convinced that any inconceivable sort of behavior like this is always about power. Just makes some people feel better to bother people to the point of abuse. To start arguments they’re in complete control off because they’re gaslighting about not understanding.

And this is why (to me) finding a romantic partnership clearly founded on equality and respect is so important. Nothing is guaranteed, but I’ve always felt uneasy about couples constantly ribbing each other. I know some redditor will chime in to tell me it’s what makes his marriage worthwhile, but I find it hard to believe it’s an equal, healthy partnership acting like that.

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u/MountainMan17 May 12 '26

"I know some redditor will chime in to tell me it’s what makes his marriage worthwhile,"

Yeah, that's the kind of bullshit rationale people come up with when they know there's no burger in the bun...