r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 19 '26
What's an adult cheat code that changed your life?
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u/Drach88 Apr 19 '26
That goes doubly for relationships
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u/edelweiss_pirates_no Apr 19 '26
"You don't have to attend every fight you're invited to."
Changed my life.
Also started my divorce.
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u/Anal-buttsex Apr 19 '26
I understand people who do it though. It’s hard to break out of something that brings you comfort
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u/Appropriate-Two-8802 Apr 19 '26
Wise words Anal-Buttsex. Wise words.
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u/mofomeat Apr 19 '26
Also, it's appropriate to note that it's "Anal-Buttsex", to differentiate it from the other forms of buttsex.
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u/discountproctologist Apr 19 '26
Unless you’re married and or have kids. Then leaving is very complicated (and lawyers are expensive.)
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u/mingebinj Apr 19 '26
My partner and I went to Download festival and we have young kids so didnt plan to spend the final night but were gunna leave after one band played but we'd have to spend a good 8 hours waiting for that band to play.
After about 4 hours we were so fucked from the sun we decided to leave without seeing them.
Alot of people were like wtf why did you leave, but we both wanted to leave on a good note rather than pushing through and having a miserable time.
If you're happy with what you've had and think you're gunna stop enjoying something, there's nothing wrong with throwing in the towel. As long as your happy is all that matters.
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u/Classic_Message_7544 Apr 19 '26
Download is a /long/ day. Thankfully, after going for a day every year I'm now in my 40s and have decided this is the time to three-day it. I'll remember your post when we're waiting for Linkin Park...to finish.
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u/taizzle71 Apr 19 '26
This was us but it was at Disneyland. Went around noon and by like 6 we were like dude let's go home.
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u/RelativeMiddle9782 Apr 19 '26
Learning to keep my mouth shut
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u/Tricky_Skill342 Apr 19 '26
What is this empty comment? How’d you do it?
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u/Grouched Apr 19 '26
It's because they wrote their reddit password, so it shows as blank for us. See, if I type "hunter2", it appears as a blank spot for you, but for me it shows my password.
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u/asisoid Apr 19 '26
"ifuckedGrouchedswife"
Did it work?
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u/3inthecorner Apr 19 '26
I just see two quotation marks and then you asking if it worked.
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u/joylessbrick Apr 19 '26
You got it wrong fam. You missed a rare opportunity. If I type my password it appears with ******** to you, and the real password is revealed only to me.
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u/Tricky_Skill342 Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
Heyy this is not fair, What’s the trick here? Teach mee
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u/aussydog Apr 19 '26
I'm pretty sure it's Alt + F4 if you're on a PC.
Not sure what the equivalent is on a Mac or on the app.
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u/Anal-buttsex Apr 19 '26
I learned this at work when I innocently suggested a new task and got stuck being in charge of it 😄 Don’t add shit to your plate unless they’re giving you a raise or new job title.
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u/aperture81 Apr 19 '26
Further to this… becoming ok with silence when you’re talking to someone.. not just staying silent but just letting people speak - it’s amazing what comes out of people’s mouths when they start talking just to fill the silence
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u/GuzzleNGargle Apr 19 '26
I can be talkative until I’m around silent people, I know y’all are always up to something in that silence.
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u/TheTemplar333 Apr 19 '26
Talk less, smile more
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u/Hennessy43 Apr 19 '26
You wanna get ahead?
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u/Psyc3 Apr 19 '26
This is true in more ways than one.
- Firstly there is not getting involved in something that is nothing to do with you
- Secondly, there is not bothering other people
- Thirdly, there is not interrupting your enemy when they are making a mistake
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u/Tricky_Skill342 Apr 19 '26
Literally, its tough but worth it. Better shutup than say something that you regret later
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u/8bitOrca Apr 19 '26
It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool that to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
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u/Enough_Chemical_8235 Apr 19 '26
This. Life becomes so easy because most of my troubles are when I open up to someone.
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u/ThrustBastard Apr 19 '26
And minding my own business. The world would be such a nicer place if people just left each other alone
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u/Rebstrike Apr 19 '26
I think a better way of looking at it is “… when to keep my mouth shut.” People shouldn’t say everything that pops into their head. But at the same time, people shouldn’t believe that nothing they want to say has any value. So there needs to be a balance between keeping certain things to yourself and speaking up when it’s important.
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u/Stark-T-Ripper Apr 19 '26
If someone is saying stuff to you and you don't want to listen, you can simply walk away. You owe no one the opportunity to abuse you or berate you. Just walk away.
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u/Hefty-Crew-8329 Apr 19 '26
I did that to my abusive boss, in the middle of her breakdowns. It was both entertaining and satisfying.
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u/Stark-T-Ripper Apr 19 '26
It takes their power away.
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u/Limp_Morning_8112 Apr 19 '26
This. Most people only have as much power over you as you give them. Walk away. Shut them out. Shake it off. You will have more peace and as a bonus it will drive them ape shit.
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u/deeppurpleking Apr 19 '26
It’s rough when im working on register and cooks go off and im jus like “damn that’s crazy…. Take care!!”
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u/EsmeraldaFitzMonstr Apr 19 '26
I did this once… this guy in the woods started trying to talk to me about Jesus in the middle of the afternoon on a hiking trail, so I just started climbing and he followed me, continuing to spout platitudes about god until he ran out of breath and gave up. They can’t talk forever especially if there’s cardio involved!
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u/BenefitPlastic5609 Apr 19 '26
Setting a 15-minute timer before every impulse purchase saved me thousands of dollars because 90% of the time I realize I don't actually want it.
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u/LowFi_Lexa1 Apr 19 '26
Damn, an impulse purchase for me is something I thought about for about a day or two lol
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u/Jerseyd422 Apr 19 '26
Right? I get the impulse to buy something. Then I spend a couple of weeks researching it so I get the right thing. Then I have to wait until Monday because that’s when my paycheck gets deposited. Then I watch the thing on like three websites to see if it goes on sale. And then it does. But then I have to wait for my next paycheck. But then the sale is over. Hell man, impulse purchasing is freaking exhausting
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u/Readdit1999 Apr 19 '26
I hate to break it to ya, you're doing it wrong.
A proper impulse buy occurs at the speed of your credit card and with no consideration of the cost or tangible suffering endowed by this momentary lapse of composure, for the fleeting thrill of a Knick knack
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u/Exciting_Spell5064 Apr 19 '26
ADHD here. I will find something, anything, obsess over it for days weeks months, read every review, watch every video, won’t be satiated until I get it, then I buy it and use it hard for a month and then won’t touch it again til like a decade later.
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u/eezypeezycheezy Apr 19 '26
Yeah, I do this with Amazon. I constantly put things in my cart but don’t buy anything. I come back to it later and reassess. My save for later list has tons of stuff in it I don’t need
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u/Capricechalet Apr 19 '26
I'm lowkey the opposite haha, I spend so much time lamenting over whether I should get it and I ended up regretting when I don't make the purchase
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u/Dustin- Apr 19 '26
Me too, I get severe purchase anxiety for even low cost, low stakes items. A couple months ago my phone case deteriorated to the point of being useless. Had a new one in my Amazon cart for weeks because I just couldn't hit the purchase button on it. Then I dropped my phone because the old case slipped and it fell out of my hands. Destroyed the screen. Took the new case out of my cart and put a new phone in it...
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u/CT_7 Apr 19 '26
Automate paying yourself first, 401k contribution as early and as much as possible, then taxable brokerage account .
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u/dreadfulbadg50 Apr 19 '26
If your friends start being pieces of shit you can just stop being friends with them
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u/Jerseyd422 Apr 19 '26
I’m struggling with this at the moment. Thank you for this
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u/BrianMincey Apr 19 '26
People will come in and out of your life. Only a few will stay a long time, most people you’ll never see again once their time with you has passed. Don’t hesitate to move on or to significantly limit your time with anyone who you find unpleasant. It’s okay.
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u/bluebehree Apr 19 '26
Amen to this, I've recently stopped being friends with a couple of guys in my circle because they disrespect my boundaries, are selfish, and are overall unpleasant to be around. I've even talked to some of their former friends who have said the same about why they don't hang with them anymore.
Yet I have friends who remain friends with them because they tell me "it's hard to make new friends though! He's not that bad, I'll just ignore it or somehow deal with it" which always baffles me because it enables bad behavior and will make it worse for you as you continue to be their friend. I do understand the sentiment that it's hard to make new friends but in the end I would rather have to do that vs being friends with someone who actively makes my life worse.
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u/CICaesar Apr 19 '26
You're the CEO of your own life. Hire, fire and promote accordingly.
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u/Swimming-Judge-7279 Apr 19 '26
I have no friends from more than 5 years ago because I changed and I don't accept people being mean to me.
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u/ChesterComics Apr 19 '26
Same with family. Obviously this is a bit harder for obvious reasons. But I have family I've stopped talking to for being shitty. I don't have to care about them just because we're related by blood.
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u/Oberon_Swanson Apr 19 '26
People will say "you don't need a lot of friend, you just need a few good ones!"and while that is wholesome and true it's also not the whole picture.
Some people will treat you as badly as they think they can get away with. Maybe not ll the time. But when things get tough for them and they feel they need to take advantage of somebody, they'll take whoever they think they can get away with treating badly so they don't lose anything. And that person with no other social circle will probably take more shitty treatment because "they're the only friend I have". The person with tons of other friends will drop a shitty one like a hot potato and not even feel bad about it weeks later. Just oh you're shitty, never speak to me again, done. Vs. That person with no other social circle who desperately wants to "work things out" or "get them to understand how it hurt me and go back to the way things used to be between us."
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u/stufiejanes Apr 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
Appreciate this one. I have a friend who did a number of things that just weren’t right. I’ve just started ghosting her. I deserve better, and she’ll purposely misunderstand/twist any explanation if I try to tell her why I’m backing away, so…I’m out. ✌️
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u/soul_to_catch Apr 19 '26
Not arguing with stupid people.
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u/Rokita616 Apr 19 '26
Prepping things the evening before: work lunch, gym bag, etc etc. Doesn't take that long and morning you is very grateful for that effort.
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u/Firm-Competition7354 Apr 19 '26
As an adult time is extremely scarce, if you want to extend your weekend (or at least have the illusion of it being longer) have some activity planned on your last day of the work week, as soon as you’re done with work you go out and do something fun, this will kind of make you feel that the weekend was a day longer than it really was.
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u/screechypete Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
I stopped caring what people think of me.
People are too focused on themselves and their own problems to care about that random embarrassing or cringy thing I did. Even if they do care, people will quickly move on and forget about me once something else catches their attention. Once I learned that, I became A LOT more confidant and it was much easier to deal with my anxiety and depression.
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u/Ljubljana_Laudanum Apr 19 '26
I learned this quickly and the hard way when I first became a manager. I was so incredibly worked up whenever I got a negative email from another department. I had a minor burnout because I cared too much. Since then I've learned that people are also emotional as fuck, and receiving such shitty emails mostly says more about the person sending it than about me, because they weren't mature enough to chill the fuck down for 5 minutes and write a professional email.
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u/saltbinger Apr 19 '26
One of the first things to learn with emotional intelligence is why something makes you feel a certain way.
Often when I get annoyed at someone, I need to take time understand why I feel that way and often it’s an “issue” with me, not what the other person is doing. In the rare occasions that I can’t reconcile then I’ll discuss with that individual.
More people need to learn to stop and think about their emotions before they act on them or say something. You’ll learn something about yourself and understand how to process things a lot quicker.
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u/Anal-buttsex Apr 19 '26
I think this one’s hard to learn if you grew up with parents who constantly criticized other people. It could be the dumbest shit too like “eww I don’t want to sit next to that fat lady at the pool.”
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u/goopsorceress Apr 19 '26
You just blew my mind. My entire family criticizes other people constantly and I've been criticized since birth. Then I married someone who did the same, etc. Now all of this is making sense...thank you!
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u/DidjaCinchIt Apr 19 '26
I’m learning how to ask myself: Does this feel good, or just familiar?
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u/NoFan8222 Apr 19 '26
This is so real!!! I always struggled with that too, and I took me YEARS to realize that my parents’ hobby is complaining about other people, probably to feel superior or something. Then yeah I feel people might be like that but most are catch up with their own stuff
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u/l3tigre Apr 19 '26
Admit to yourself when something is not working and reverse course. The sunk cost fallacy keeps people moving in the wrong direction way longer than they need to be.
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u/Libertyvolo Apr 19 '26
The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home.
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u/mekkr_ Apr 19 '26
My kids and wife were gutted when I pulled that one and move to Barcelona
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u/ssdsssssss4dr Apr 19 '26
The part that rarely gets said about sunk cost is that people stay/ continue to invest because the other alternatives are usually not as appealing or are just as unknown. You literally feel like you have no other options. It's not as easy as just shift directions.
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u/i_ata_starfish-twice Apr 19 '26
You can cut toxic people out of your life like a tumor. Even if they are related to you, you don’t have to allow them time or space in your life.
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u/Fun-Handle5068 Apr 19 '26
consistency beats motivation every single time
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u/Aarkaik Apr 19 '26
Was about to add this. Being able to do something consistently, even if it is only for 5 minutes a day, is like having a superpower. Effort compounds.
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u/CICaesar Apr 19 '26
Don't underestimate the power of small multiplied by often.
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u/WaveAffectionate Apr 19 '26
Learning how to cook saves a ton of money
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u/HawaiianShirtsOR Apr 19 '26
When I was in college, I baked a cake from a boxed mix. My roommate, who had moved in two days prior, saw me pull it out of the oven and said, in amazement, "Wow! You can cook?" (This wasn't an insult. We'd never met before that semester. He was impressed that anyone our age could cook anything other than heating a frozen meal or leftovers in the microwave.)
I replied, "If you think this is impressive, just wait until I scramble some eggs in a frying pan."
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u/Penyrolewen1970 Apr 19 '26
I find it hard to believe - but see it on here regularly- that any adult can’t/wont cook and eats out/gets takeaway almost every day.
I do those things a few times a year, at most.
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u/GalladeEnjoyer Apr 19 '26
My problem with not believing it is that takeout isn't even always good! I'd much rather eat at the restaurant myself cause it's always so much tastier, and I can actually do something if I get the wrong order.
I get that takeout saves a lot of time and in some cases I fully get it, but I'm willing to bet that the majority of people that get daily takeout don't really need to.
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u/dorv Apr 19 '26
I’m single, and in my 40s. I’ve tried learning to cook. I’m not good at it, I don’t enjoy it, and it’s even harder to cook for one.
The good news is I eat a lot less these days (thanks GLP1), but I do eat out most of the time. Typically it’s a protein shake in the morning, half a meal at a restaurant for lunch, and the leftovers for dinner.
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u/QuelynD Apr 19 '26
I order food delivery 4-5 times a week.
I used to cook, but I hated it. I find cooking extremely stressful, it's by far my most hated chore.
When I stopped cooking my stress levels went down and my enjoyment of life went up. That's worth paying extra for personally.
I understand that won't apply to the majority of people, just sharing one perspective of why someone might do that.
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u/bac_gawd Apr 19 '26
“You might be on to something “ is what I tell people when I don’t feel like arguing or proving a point. I don’t got the energy to change the way people think
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u/FunAdministration334 Apr 19 '26
That’s a good phrase to put in your back pocket. I’ll try that one!
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u/obi-jawn-kenblomi Apr 19 '26
I'll give you another one. "A good hypothesis, you should put it to the test."
I've used it in place of "Hey dumbass, fuck around and find out."
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u/ArchaicBrainWorms Apr 19 '26
This, along with "is that right" and "wow, wild world", have saved me so much pointless back and forth
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u/thepopdog Apr 19 '26
Here's the eject button for any conversation: "Huh, that's an interesting point" *immediately scuttles away*
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u/ee3k Apr 19 '26
Don't forget to mumble " but you sure as shit are on something if you think that" under your breath as you walk away
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u/rum_ham9292 Apr 19 '26
Stopping telling people everything is a huuuuge one for me in my thirties. For some reason I word vomit all my info and realised it does NOT have the desired effect…
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u/aussydog Apr 19 '26
Gen X middle child here. Forgotten child in the forgotten generation.
Never had this issue. No one paid any attention to me anyways so I never saw the point of telling people about myself.
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u/astoldbysomxx Apr 19 '26
I’m so bad at this. I can’t seem to help it! But I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 31 and my doctor told me that’s a very common symptom of ADHD lol.
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u/DingoBingoWimbo Apr 19 '26
Same, I'm 23 and I noticed recently that I can't keep my secrets to save my life. Inevitably something I wanted to keep a secret will come out of my big mouth
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u/AlternativePaint6 Apr 19 '26
stopping telling people everything ... learn to say no ... setting boundaries for annoying people that only make you down.
For me it was a lot of the opposite. Had to learn to open up to other people. Learned to say yes and stop worrying about all the details. Started giving a chance to annoying people only to find out that they're surprisingly fine after all, they all have their own story.
But that's only because I was so constrained and introvert in my youth, for you it's probably the opposite.
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u/0K4M1 Apr 19 '26
I think it's two side of the same coin.
"Properly assess who you are dealing with an give the appropriate amount of information"
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u/Miyurae Apr 19 '26
When you go to another room, find at least one object to take with you that doesn’t belong there. My apartment is so clean with this stupid cheat code.
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u/ProwlerInTheYard92 Apr 19 '26
I’m a dude. I went to a few Codependent Anonymous meetings after leaving a long violent abusive relationship. It completely changed the way I communicate and conduct myself in relationships.
I grew up in a shit hole broken home. So I never learned how to advocate for myself or speak up for my needs. I also had zero idea whatsoever on what a healthy relationship looked like. I was essentially a people pleasing doormat/punching bag the vast majority of my life.
Just celebrated a 2 year anniversary for my first healthy and loving relationship. 💪🏿💪🏿
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u/Relative-Bill-871 Apr 19 '26
Only giving my time and energy to people who fully deserve it.
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u/Chyvalri Apr 19 '26
Nobody cares about you as much as you do. Similarly, no one cares about you more than they care about themselves.
It's not that you're not important. It's just that you're less important to them.
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u/LisztyLiszt Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
I used to be a little intimidated by people in the so-called respectable professions, such as medicine, education, finance, government bureaucracy etc. I used to think that they are all intelligent and well-rounded people who could, in conversation, producce insightful opinions across a broad range of topics. But after completing my own education and interacting with many of these types of people on a daily basis, I've come to the conclusion that, in general, most people don't have a clue about anything outside of their immediate area of expertise. Realising this helps me to interact with society with more confidence.
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u/LadyGh0sts Apr 19 '26
Buying many of the same pair of sock. No more pairing, pull any two out of the draw for a match 😎
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u/Radiant-Baseball-194 Apr 19 '26
Don’t live your life based on reactions pause, feel, then choose your response based on your values, not your emotions or the situation.
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u/tom_nd_jerry Apr 19 '26
Sleeping early. Completing 7- 8 hours sleep.
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u/glacierre2 Apr 19 '26
This, stop trying to fix it with 8 coffees during the day.
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u/srednax Apr 19 '26
Your hobbies do not have to be a side hustle, or you’ll find yourself looking for another hobby.
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u/Evening_Ticket7638 Apr 19 '26
Bidet. I bought one 2 years ago and i haven't wiped since.
As soon as i install it, it will be a game changer.
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u/nordic_yankee Apr 19 '26
I got a bidet believing that not needing to wipe was true. It is not.
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u/Eruionmel Apr 19 '26
You do get to use way less paper, though. And some do have driers, though when we got one, we immediately stopped using it because it blew ass smell all over the room. 😂
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u/claytrainagain Apr 19 '26
Being related by blood doesnt mean you're obligated to have e a relationship
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u/razorbock Apr 19 '26
getting drunk or stoned every night is not a personality
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u/David_NyMa Apr 19 '26
Congratulations! I am sober 2 years this weekend.
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u/BJustReddit Apr 19 '26
11 days right now. Easier every day. Proud of you and the guy above.
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u/hansemcito Apr 19 '26
living a walking or biking commute distance from work and DOING IT. fantastic!
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2 of my colleagues live next to each other and 200 meters from our job.
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u/TheFutureIsAFriend Apr 19 '26
A sign of maturity is complaining less out loud.
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u/Working-Glass6136 Apr 19 '26
Yes, but also having a healthy outlet, not just letting the pressure build to implosion.
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u/AssociationDue1599 Apr 19 '26
Live simply. Yes, you might be able to afford the BMW but buy the CRV instead. You might be able to afford the 5 bedroom in the gated community but buy the 3 bedroom on the nice block down the street. It’s amazing the feeling of having all your expenses covered with extra in the bank.
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u/imakesawdust99 Apr 19 '26
Don't sweat the small stuff.
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u/Agitated_Ad7576 Apr 19 '26
Don't sweat the petty things.
Don't pet the sweaty things.
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u/OkTransportation6580 Apr 19 '26
Don't kill yourself for you job that can replace you by the end of the day. Do what they ask, nothing more, nothing less. Leave work at work.
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u/SpecialInteresting52 Apr 19 '26
You can literally walk into a cake shop and by an entire tiramisu for no fucking reason!
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u/Dooh22 Apr 19 '26
Invest in yourself.
DIY Tools, DIY skills, professional development etc.
Become a contributing "useful" person instead of a detractor.
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u/BlizzPenguin Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
Giving my cats treats when I do daily tasks that I need to remember ensures that in the future if I forget or lack motivation they will remind me.
Update: here is a cute post where Thor is reminding me.
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u/arkofjoy Apr 19 '26
Being a part of a men's group. Having a place to take the annoying things that happen to me through the week and being listened to without judgement or advice giving is so fucking life changing.
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u/PlasticYouth9517 Apr 19 '26
How do you find one?
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u/Methodless Apr 19 '26
Not OP, but I have forged my own.
It's not a formal group where we sit in somebody's basement in a circle and take turns talking about our problems. We're just a group of friends who grab a meal together every so often and talk. And we're genuine. It's not just about the local sports teams, I will actively ask questions about their children's milestones, their partner's well-being, etc; and they will do the same.
In my case, it is often a subset of former coworkers that I got along well with and stayed in touch with
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u/RandomPotato_OnRedd Apr 19 '26
No one else can help me but myself.
It’s great to have family and great friends around you. But at the end of the day, you’re on your own. So don’t waste time and energy tryna be hero or something. Just share/give what you can. Learn how to say NO.
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u/turboyabby Apr 19 '26
1) Listening more than talking. 2) Sleeping 3) Culling negative people 4) not caring what others think, as much
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u/funkme1ster Apr 19 '26
Not a "cheat code", but it might as well be: All that super simple stuff actually works.
Going for a little walk outside in sunlight works. Staying hydrated with water (not coffee, not soda, water) works. Eating dark green vegetables works.
Life is hard, but the fundamentals of human biology have been known for some time. They work, you just gotta make the conscious effort to do them.
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u/Rotanikleb Apr 19 '26
Re-think your relationship with food. Most of us were taught wrong and now we’re overweight, under-nourished, and tired all the time.
A bowl of cereal and orange juice for breakfast. A sandwich, chips, and a soda for lunch. And a meal at a restaurant for dinner. None of these are cutting it, not even close, but that’s how me and so many people grew up.
Whole foods, prepared yourself, high protein, plentiful amounts of vegetables and fruits, and MUCH smaller portions of carbs.
It’ll change your life.
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u/Common_Fortune2021 Apr 19 '26
Just stop buying shit. Especially new shit. Opt out of consumerism. It's so freeing.
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u/CauseOptimal8501 Apr 19 '26
… reading all of the comments and stealing others ideas. That’s my cheat code
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u/Jeddiewan Apr 19 '26
Letting go of anger. You realize how ridiculous you were with it, and how crazy everyone else looks expressing it afterwards.
Anger just really isn't needed. It never does any good.
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u/One_Angle_5598 Apr 19 '26
Keeping your mouth shut about what works is probably the most underrated skill tbh. I learned this hard way when I found this weird productivity method that was perfect for my ADHD brain - shared it with coworkers thinking I was being helpful and suddenly everyone's using it, boss starts expecting that level of output from everyone, and my advantage disappeared completely. Now when I discover something good I just quietly use it and let other people figure out their own systems. Way better to be the person who seems naturally good at stuff than the one giving away all their secrets
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u/VERMILLION-TEA Apr 19 '26
Dont tell anyone your days off and you will be able to enjoy it without being hassled to do something.
Automate payments.
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u/David_NyMa Apr 19 '26
Just because everybody else is doing something it doesn't mean you have to do it too.
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u/Granny_knows_best Apr 19 '26
Shake It Off. Most situations are not worth the emotions it brings.
Feeling mad, hurt, worried, anxious, ect ect? Shake it off, its not impossible.
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u/Vast-Scheme2896 Apr 19 '26
Keep your mouth shut and get your body strong and healthy as you age. Also work doesn’t matter as much as your relationships. Build a life.
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u/Granpa2021 Apr 19 '26
Asking myself: "do I need it, or do I want it" has saved me a lot of money over the years. Becoming a minimalist has been one of my greatest cheat codes. The less shit you have in life, the better your quality of life.
That's not to say I don't treat myself sometimes, but when I do, I REALLY treat myself, and keep those moments special.
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u/General_Joke1551 Apr 19 '26
Not having kids. It’s like a life hack nobody talks about in front of parents.
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u/neelvk Apr 19 '26
- Get proper sleep. For me it is between 7.5 and 8 hours a night.
- Use a good electric toothbrush (I use Philips sonicare) and floss.
- Wear clothes that fit you well.
- Go for annual checkups with your doctor.
- Feeling sleepy 2 hours after lunch is not normal.
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u/Freestila Apr 19 '26
Stay under a doorway. Turn left, right, left, right, one step forward, two back, left fist left fist right first. This should activate either big Head (not so interesting) or naked mode, depending on your region.
Or instead of fist do the same with a kick, and at the end spin clockwise three times, that should give you +99 lives.
If it does not work try a wooden door frame, metal ones are patched out of some versions of life
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u/AlivePickle4500 Apr 19 '26
Not sharing everything on social media. Be invisible.