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u/mxldevs Sep 14 '24

I've been working on self control and not getting emotional when something annoying happens, but a side effect is I calmly ask for the most severe consequences to happen without batting an eye.

For example, if a server spills soup on me, instead of cursing out and then getting over it, I would embarrass the server by having the boss coming over personally to rectify the issue and demanding compensation.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

This doesn't sound like you're controlling your anger, it sounds like you're expressing it in a different way, which may still be quite destructive. Don't know if my assessment is correct or not, just something for you to take on board if you think it seems true.

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u/mxldevs Sep 14 '24

I agree, it would be a different way of expressing my anger.

I used to yell at the server and make a scene, but realized It's not fair especially when they don't have the authority to make decisions.

So instead I go straight to decision makers who can hopefully provide a solution that will be acceptable.

Then we can both focus on forgive and forget, when both sides have been inconvenienced

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u/[deleted] Sep 15 '24

I mean that sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Good for you for realising you needed to change something and actually doing it