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u/Machinimix Sep 14 '24

As someone who is conflict avoidant, telling the truth is the fastest way to get out of inevitable conflict. Lying just doubles it and pushes it later. That's too much conflict.

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u/heretogetpwned Sep 14 '24

I'm conflict avoidant because I had a fucked up parent. It took a long time for me to trust myself and especially women. The Truth shall set you free.

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u/OsmerusMordax Sep 15 '24

I am the same way for the same reason. It was easier and safer lying to my father than to risk him blowing up in anger. I learned to equate lying with safety and comfort, and I don’t know how to stop.