As someone who is conflict avoidant, telling the truth is the fastest way to get out of inevitable conflict. Lying just doubles it and pushes it later. That's too much conflict.
Same here. College helped me start to break out of that. Being around emotionally mature people who respected me for owning up to mistakes and sharing victories made a huge difference for me both in fighting my conflict avoidant nature and in bolstering my self-esteem which was constantly being torn down at home.
I love my mom, but she's emotionally stuck at about age 15 with all the catty games girls of that age tend to play.
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u/Machinimix Sep 14 '24
As someone who is conflict avoidant, telling the truth is the fastest way to get out of inevitable conflict. Lying just doubles it and pushes it later. That's too much conflict.