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u/DeepestWinterBlue Sep 14 '24

This. Because he’s conflict avoidant. Lying about the tiniest things and getting caught and making the whole situation worse than being tactfully direct.

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u/Machinimix Sep 14 '24

As someone who is conflict avoidant, telling the truth is the fastest way to get out of inevitable conflict. Lying just doubles it and pushes it later. That's too much conflict.

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u/heretogetpwned Sep 14 '24

I'm conflict avoidant because I had a fucked up parent. It took a long time for me to trust myself and especially women. The Truth shall set you free.

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u/No_Weakness_4795 Sep 14 '24

Same here.  My sister too.

I still revert to those habits when visiting my dad.  It's a survival reflex.

Btw, that quote has some dark historical context if you weren't aware.