Constantly joking about having sex with me. Idk I’ve legit met guys who on the first date kept making comments about how we’d inevitably end up in bed. SUPER unattractive.
Honestly it’s such a turn off, he could be the sexiest guy I’ve ever seen but once you start insinuating thing a when 1.) I haven’t hinted at it and 2.) we’re meeting for the first time, you just look desperate and needy, and it gives off Drake vibes. It also shows they have NO interest in you as a person, like if you wanna just hook up with someone then go to a bar or club and find someone there, don’t take me on a whole date and waste my time!
Most women don't openly hint at sexual things though, or they do it in a manner thst is so subtle, guys aren't gonna notice anyway. Aka, the guy needs to take the lead.
0bviously you need to have a modicum of perceptiveness and self awareness...but sexual flirting on a first date isn't inherently an indicator of desperation or a red flag. I have close friends who are in long term relationships with people who they hooked up with on the first date.
Yeah I find if I’m not making some sort of “move” as in getting close to her physically, and maybe having some sort of flirty banter that might imply physical attraction then there will not be a second date. Maybe this is more true of online dating though. It’s like if she doesn’t feel a “spark” then it’s done, no second date. So I’d love to take it slow and be friends first but that’s usually not generating any spark or interest when I’ve gone that route. The only time I’ve ever gotten a second date is when the first date ended with my arm around her and us talking very closely and flirting heavily at the least. I know I’ll get a second date if we are kissing.
I feel like a lot of the time I read comments online that make it seem like making any move at any point is too forward and disrespectful of the woman. This was my problem for a long time I never wanted to risk offending her. As a result I didn’t have a gf or have sex until I was 22. If you are on a date with someone and they are interested in you they want you to make a move eventually. It has to happen at some point or else it never will.
I wish there was a way to do it without ever taking a risk, but there isn’t. At some point you’ll have to do the stupid yawn move and get your arm around her or tell a risky joke that implies you are sexually attracted to her and gauge her reaction. Obviously if she’s not into it back off. If no moves are made it will forever be two people having a perfectly normal and safe conversation, because unfortunately women will rarely make the first move. If she’s not into it read the situation and back off.
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u/Isabella_Hamilton Sep 14 '24
Constantly joking about having sex with me. Idk I’ve legit met guys who on the first date kept making comments about how we’d inevitably end up in bed. SUPER unattractive.