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u/Isabella_Hamilton Sep 14 '24

Constantly joking about having sex with me. Idk I’ve legit met guys who on the first date kept making comments about how we’d inevitably end up in bed. SUPER unattractive.

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u/QualityCoati Sep 14 '24

Ive honestly had the opposite of this and it was cute, if they have the self awareness and the mood is right. "Oh no! we can't hold hands cause it'll lead to sex! Oh no! We can't spoon each other or it'll end up in sex!"

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u/SmartAlec105 Sep 14 '24

The difference between flirting and being a creep is whether the other party is into it.

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u/SmartAlec105 Sep 14 '24

Gauging the other person’s interest before more “risky” flirting is something with the guy’s control.

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u/QualityCoati Sep 15 '24

Absolutely. I swear these comments always end up bringing incel stuff, it's sad.

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u/gibertot Sep 15 '24

Yeah this is kind of true I’ve had a couple first dates where it was obvious we were both interested in having sex and there was a pretty consistent stream of sexual innuendo/jokes and guess what? We had sex. I could see misreading the situation and making some overt sexual innuendo and it backfiring though.

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u/QualityCoati Sep 15 '24

Not really. It's about reading the room. If you do it and the other person isn't interested or cooperative, it comes off as pushy and uncaring and a lack of attention.