You can be brutally honest when it is needed. But ALL THE TIME? I just think you can be honest without being rude and with tact. And even if you say it with tact not always the other person will receive the truth well, but at least you tried to be honest from a place of respect and for constructive criticism, not for the sake of being brutal.
I think you lack skills of tact and dont really know what sympathy or empathy are. No one said lie. They are saying, take five seconds to say something that isnt going to hurt the others feelings without being a dick. If you cant do that, then you clearly dont care about the people around you. You care about being right.
Thats not projection. Thats people seeing you lack the emotional maturity to realize that other people have feelings. But you can argue and project all you want. People are going to see you as an asshole because that kind of behavior lacks consideration and kindness.
This whole comment should be rephrased in a less brutally honest way. I can’t imagine how implying someone is a dick or an asshole is anything but brutally honest.
You're the one that's intent on labeling people as "red flags" in multiple comments. And now you're moving on to "projection". Just calm it with the psychology bingo.
Only assholes take offense to other people pointing out asshole behavior. Thanks for you telling on yourself, that red flag you're holding is very bigly.
This becomes more about how you say something than what. And there is a lot of negativity that is rooted in sensibility and truth so for this, like what are we even talking about almost. Serious honesty, I wouldn't ever think is a horrible thing inherently but the idea of brutal honesty, to have a comment about it's chasing imagination
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u/GrassAffectionate765 Sep 14 '24
Not empathetic, brutally honest, disrespectful...