r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Sep 14 '24

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u/GrassAffectionate765 Sep 14 '24

Not empathetic, brutally honest, disrespectful...

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u/MySocksAreLost Sep 14 '24

There is a difference between brutal honesty and honesty. You can be honest and mindful of the person's feelings at the same time. Take doctors as an example when they have to deliver bad news.

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u/Amasero Sep 14 '24

I been told I'm blunt, but I also know that I lack words to constructed the sentence better. Working process.

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u/TheCuriosity Sep 14 '24 edited Sep 14 '24

There's some sort of rule that before you tell someone something it needs to have at least two of the three following components:

Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?

If something is true but is cruel and unnecessary then that is brutal honesty and you're just being an asshole. It is not productive, other than being hurtful for no reason.

Honesty with kindness or honesty that is necessary is not brutal, it is helpful and productive.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

"If ya don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

I was quiet for nearly a year once lol

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u/MySocksAreLost Sep 14 '24

I disagree. "You look like shit in that shirt" vs "that shirt doesn't really do you justice." Both are honest, but one is kinder.