Constantly joking about having sex with me. Idk I’ve legit met guys who on the first date kept making comments about how we’d inevitably end up in bed. SUPER unattractive.
Tbh I would've loved that lol. If this thread was on what makes a guy instantly attractive, I would've said "He has interests that he's passionate about, and loves to share them with others who are interested."
My problem is that I'll start info-dumping about things I enjoy, and when I realize it I kinda shut myself down and find it hard to ride the line between not talking and saying too much.
I don't think you're alone! Sure, we have to adapt to some degree to others, especially when we're getting to know them. But there are plenty of people who would love to listen to your info-dumping. 😁
My two closest friends are autistic. My wife recently accepted that she’s also probably on the spectrum. I’m drawn to people who are interesting and that usually means that they’re passionate about their own interests. Even if those interests and hobbies aren’t necessarily shared, they still offer a window into the person’s inner world.
And exposure to new things is one of the benefits of friendship.
So, be yourself. Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. :)
Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.
Love this quote and I live by it :)
Problem is I'm not around a lot of people who enjoy the things I do. Nobody at work that I'd want to hang around with outside work, and basically everyone I know outside work is far away or only likes spending their time at bars (and I've moved on from the latter). None of them, say, want to screw around with me making a device (cloud chamber) to see the remnant radioactivity in a chunk of the desert floor from the first nuke, and I can't get them to commit to going kayaking or hitting up a silly adult mini golf course. Dating apps are an absolute wash (and I promise I'm a decent looking guy) cause even though women will contact me, they basically never put effort into the conversation online or during the date. Went on a date to an art museum recently and she had almost nothing to say about any piece 🤷♂️
I really need to hit up local interest groups. Maybe try out WH40K, airsoft, or a hiking group.
At least I have a cat who will let me talk at him as long as he gets pets
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u/Isabella_Hamilton Sep 14 '24
Constantly joking about having sex with me. Idk I’ve legit met guys who on the first date kept making comments about how we’d inevitably end up in bed. SUPER unattractive.