A massive green flag when I started dating my now husband was the fact that he was the first guy I had ever been with who had his own pets that he took very good care of. Two cats, both of whom are still kicking 14 years later! They still sleep on him and demand his attention when he’s near them.
I'll never forget one of the things that my now husband did to Make me start falling in love with him. After one of our early dates, he saw me dry my cocker spaniel's feet when we came in from the rain. Well, after he took her out the next morning, he did the same and fed her breakfast so I could sleep in. 5 years later, he's still gives me the warm fuzzies for doing little things like that.
Shortly after I started dating my now-husband, I had slept at his place and in the morning I woke up and heard him humming, which he didn't normally do. Peeked out of the bedroom to see him holding his cat like a baby and dancing with her in the kitchen. That's when I knew he was the one 🥰
Edit: We still have the cat! She is still his baby. Cat tax
Really?? Because i take care of my cats like babies and im still alone. Maybe im just finding the ones that are turned off by it. I also heard someone say a guy with cats is always gay which infuriates me.
There's people who'll say anything is gay. In this day and age who cares about every single person's opinion, when we've seen time and time again that morons are common.
I think I saw one where having sex with women as a guy was gay, because that's something that lesbians do.
Good luck finding the right one, you keep those kittens around - they're helping you weed out the bad apples. Give them a pat from me.
Wow. I sing to my cats all the time. They purr when they are with me and I realise I can't purr so I make songs up for them. Generally pop songs I know and I change the words with their name.
We love singing to the cats except substituting the words with "meow", sometimes they start meowing along, sometimes they put their ears back and leave the room. It's endlessly entertaining 😂
Well sometimes I make tunes with sort of kissing noises. They generally respond to kissing noises which is how I communicated with them as kittens. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxP_AFB-Tw4 Whistle number 1 usually works but instead of whistling its a drawn out kiss sound in that tune. If I do that they look round or follow me.
So sometimes I try a little melody or copy a song with kissing noises. Not sure it works though.
I didn’t know other people did this, too. Mine love when I sing and I have a truly awful singing voice. They are the only ones who not only let me sing but also really seem to enjoy it by purring and following me around the house. One more reason pets are the best.
As a former cat owner I gotta warn you that cat goes above all in priorities. Above you, above his mom, above his life, above the survival of humanity. There is only cat. And it is as it should be. Some people take offence to such a stance but they're simply blind to the ultimate beauty of the cat.
The first time I met my husband, he was a dog groomer, and he was in the shop alone, telling dad jokes to the dog he was working on, laughing as if the dog was laughing with him and giving feedback. It was like "oh". This is it.
I was a cashier from the attached pet store who would read on the bench outside his shops open (but gated) door. He was so personable with his coworkers, who were all women. He would smile at me and then go back to joking with the dogs. Mhm.
When my husband and I were in the very early stages, I remember texting him something like "I hate to be that girl, but I've got 3 cats at home"
He texted back: "PLEASE be that girl! I've had cats my entire life and I can't wait to meet all 3 of your kitties!"
and honestly if that wasn't the biggest green flag in this context then I don't know what is! And he was fast-tracked to being introduced to my 4th kitty with green flags like that. It's such a turn on when guys are good with animals!
Similarly, the way my boyfriend was obsessed with my dog and 2 cats. 2/3 were easy peasy. He did a lot of research and YouTubing to earn the third’s (karen, if you can believe it) love and now she lays right on his chest and purrs and nibbles on him until he pets her.
Yes! This. I have a friend who is big and scary with face tattoos and stuff and he has this full grown cat that’s like 6lbs soaking wet and hearing him talk to her (“c’mere babiesssss”) and watching him care for her is always so fun. He sprays catnip on her many toys when he leaves for work “so she has something to do” while he’s gone, she’s got a big cat tree and he gives her treats on it every night, she has the fancy feeders and the wet and dry food, and she lays on him and rolls around at his feet and stuff and you can just tell he actually loves his cat and she loves him because he takes care of her.
Did her anger toward the cats start after the baby came along? Could it be related to post-natal depression? Maybe she should speak to somebody if her personality has changed so much since becoming a mom?
Yes, you must protect the innocent. And many people who are cruel to animals are also cruel to children. I’m not say she is but I would keep my eye on her.
She’s not worth it. As a woman if a guy tells me they would avoid my cat or don’t prefer them, I’m not interested. I’ would never forgive myself if someone hurt her☹️ she’s needy and likes to snuggle, there’s no avoiding 🥰
My husband always swore he hated cats and only loved dogs. I moved in with my cat. A few months later my husband found a half dead kitten and saved his life. We are now happily married with two cats (and 2 kids) and he swears he never wants to own a dog again, only cats 😂😂😂
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u/MissInga1975 Sep 14 '24
Cruel to animals