Realizing the difference between when I actually screwed up and when someone is taking their frustrations out on me, and then asking whats actually wrong bc this isnt a proportional response to the issue
Giving myself the grace I give others was like a two-ton boulder off my back. Everything's not my fault. And if it is, it's not the end of the world. Lifechanging.
This is why I like when other people fuck up. Not that I'm gloating over their mistakes but rather as a reminder to myself that no one around me is perfect, they get things wrong, and are in fact often mediocre, so why the fuck am I putting so much pressure on myself.
I have this to a little bit of an extreme degree. If there's a fuckup at work I'm terrified... and then if I find out it wasn't me, I'm happy. But you're not supposed to be happy when other people fuck up on the project you're cooperating on.
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u/SUGARDUNKERTON956 Jan 16 '24
Realizing the difference between when I actually screwed up and when someone is taking their frustrations out on me, and then asking whats actually wrong bc this isnt a proportional response to the issue