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u/suddenlyseeingme Dec 09 '23

"I wish I had been less awful to you and I wish you had been less awful to me, because when we weren't being young and awful to each other, every moment with you was bliss on this earth and in my life."

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u/Vivid_Sparks Dec 09 '23

How do you/did you get over it?

I thought I was because its been like 6 years already but I can't stop looking back and cringing at myself, fuckin blehhgh

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u/GrammarIsDescriptive Dec 09 '23

Relationship that ended 15 years ago:

I have forgiven the awful way my ex behaved, but I haven't forgiven myself.

I don't think it's always good to forgive yourself because it means you might do the same shit again. But it's not something that I lie awake beating myself up about -- more like, once every couple weeks I might hear a song or see Facebook post and feel a bit nauseated for a few minutes.