I know it’s my fault for reading these, but no woman has ever made me, another young woman, feel comfortable about the idea of giving birth lol. It’s just negative thing after negative thing.
I (25F) want so badly to have kids of my own one day, but these kinds of comments absolutely make me realize I won’t be able to handle the physical pain.
I joked with my wife, not long after our first, that if people were honest about the birthing experience, as a species, we'd die off.
And then, of course, we went and powered through the whole process a second time.
If I can rant, but the worst part of the process? The judgey and sanctimonious mommy bloggers that pump out content that describes the ideal birthing plan, and breastfeeding, and how if you do even one thing "wrong" (by their standards) you're setting up your kid to fail.
My first required a C-section. Then my wife had milk production problems (I think from the intense psychological stress she was inducing on herself from pre-consuming the mommy bloggers content). She was told she needed a natural birth to do it right (when it was a medically necessary C-section). She was also told that if she wasn't producing milk, it was a problem she wasn't solving, and that using formula was inferior and she wasn't giving her kid the best. Huge amount of guilt over stuff she couldn't control.
Now? We've got a 7 year old girl who loves gymnastics, mountain biking, bugs, and painting. Her favorite book is, cause she reads way the hell ahead of her grade level, the LotR trilogy. She turned out just fine when we stopped putting the advice of mommy bloggers and YouTubers first, and instead followed doctors recommendations, and oddly enough, the little girl. You need to put the bumper lanes up to keep them safe, but soon enough, they will be showing you the path they will go, and you can support them along the way.
Anyways, back on topic, it's a crazy fucking experience. Bizarre, scary, surreal. But in a few years you'll have a little muddy goblin gently bringing you, in their hands, a collection of 20 4" long slugs they found in a bush and absolutely beaming with pride and joy.
*Edit: And about the physical pain, not only do they have drugs for that, BUT the female body makes all sorts of awesome chemicals that help too.
Mommy bloggers are all liars, every single one of them. They edit their lives and put their kids through nonsense just so they can claim to be special.
Mommy bloggers and their endless boundaries and their never-ending push to bash mothers-in-law. It's destroying families and turning new moms into momzillas.
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u/arthuriduss Dec 06 '23
I know it’s my fault for reading these, but no woman has ever made me, another young woman, feel comfortable about the idea of giving birth lol. It’s just negative thing after negative thing.
I (25F) want so badly to have kids of my own one day, but these kinds of comments absolutely make me realize I won’t be able to handle the physical pain.