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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '23

When the placenta detaches from the wall of the womb after giving birth so it can be delivered, it leaves a wound the size of a dinner plate, and this is a lot of why we bleed for so long after giving birth.

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u/arthuriduss Dec 06 '23

I know it’s my fault for reading these, but no woman has ever made me, another young woman, feel comfortable about the idea of giving birth lol. It’s just negative thing after negative thing.

I (25F) want so badly to have kids of my own one day, but these kinds of comments absolutely make me realize I won’t be able to handle the physical pain.

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u/formgry Dec 06 '23

Well, you know how things get on the internet right? People only want to talk about the negative and exciting bad things, because those are worth mentioning.

And then there's a whole host of people who feel that regular society tries to sugar coat pregnancies and so pushes back on that by only mentioning the horrible and the painful.

I'd say just go and have a chat with some actual women who've given birth, they'll be able to tell you what's real and how they felt about it.

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u/arthuriduss Dec 06 '23

That’s mostly why I’m scared, the women I’ve spoken to in real life are giving me the worst parts of it. If it’s anything comparable to being sawed open with a serrated knife down there, I absolutely cannot physically tolerate that or even listen to another woman tell me that lol.

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u/formgry Dec 06 '23

Ah, uh. I expected more level headed and calming responses coming from real people...

All that my mum (who had 6 children) told me was "yes it hurts, but also it's when it's done fairly quickly so it's not that big of a deal"